Post # 1
I “decided” right when I got pregnant that I didn’t want to know if we were having a boy or girl, but Monday was the Ultrasound where we could have found out. At the appointment I was really happy with the decision but now the not knowing is driving me nuts I think because I know the tech knows…she intentionally didn’t include any pictures which could reveal the sex to keep it a surprise for us so I can’t even guess really…
Is it weird to call the office today and ask them to tell me? Are they even allowed to do that over the phone? Anyone else change their minds about this?
Post # 3
@cora_123: I wouldn’t ask, definitely just take it all in, and wait until your next appt to again see if you feel the same way. I think it’s just nagging at you…but try to remember why you decided what you did!
Post # 4
I’m not sure they’ll even be able to tell you. I don’t think they make note of the gender in your file if you request not to find out. I may be completely wrong about that but that is my assumption. The ultrasound tech sees a lot of patients and won’t necessarily recall your specific ultrasound.
In any case, being Team Green is so exciting! I would just go with it. 🙂
Post # 5
@cora_123: I don’t see why they wouldn’t tell you or why it would be weird. I am not sure if they would tell you over the phone though. You will more than likely have to wait for a call back from the doc I’d assume. But do they keep that info in your chart?
I have went back and forth between wanting to know and keeping it secret until Christmas, but I know it will drive me nuts, so I am just finding out to save myself stress and anxiety lol.
Post # 6
This happened to me (sort of)!
I had a Harmony Panel done, which tells you the sex (and a bunch of other things). I went in for my appointment, and they’d LOST IT!
So I called them back the next day and requested to know the results. I had to wait for a nurse to call me back, but they told me over the phone!
Post # 7
I’m not even sure if they keep it in the chart, my doctor made a comment about how she doesn’t look when the patient doesn’t want to know so that she won’t slip up and ruin the surprise.
@megz06: The part about saving myself the stress and anxiety is what is bothering me! It was easy to say I didn’t want to know when it wasn’t possible to know, now that I can it’s driving me nuts! LOL. I kept bringing up the subject to DH and he was the one who said we should just call back and find out so I didn’t go crazy!
Post # 8
My sister and her husband aren’t finding out the gender and their ultrasound tech said she didn’t even attempt to find out the sex during their ultrasound, so it may not be an option to find out until your next ultrasound.
Post # 9
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not sure if they would keep that info in the chart, I know my doctor purposely doesn’t write it in the chart so nobody slips up if you don’t want to know. I couldn’t imagine waiting an extra 4-5 months after you can find out to know the gender, I am super impatient lol. Either way, it doesn’t hurt to call and ask, worst case scenario theyll just tell you you have to wait until the next sono to find out.
Post # 10
@cora_123: Haha well if you guys made the decision together, it won’t hurt calling in just to check. If they can’t tell you, they can’t tell you, but you can always go in for another u/s if you REALLY want to know. Insurance probably won’t cover it, but I know in my area u/s are very inexpensive. I think they run about $110, which isn’t a hgue deal, although it may be for some. It’;s worth checking into if you are really itching to know.
I work at a clinic, and I have never seen gender placed into a chart, and I think this is so they don’t accidentally give you records that will show that. They usually just include all the vitals and measurements.
Post # 11
Haha! I went through this too. DH and I are still team green at 31 weeks but when we had our anatomy scan I almost lost it. I was totally okay with not knowing if the baby was a boy or girl…until the tech knew. It drove me insane that now someone in the world knew that wasn’t me! I did not call and ask after and when I saw my doctor next she told me that the tech did not even note it in my file because she didn’t want to give my doctor a reason to slip up and say he or she. If you really don’t want to know, you can do it! Hold strong!
Post # 12
@courtknee379: Good to know I’m not the only one!!! Lol, I think I may just tell myself that they can’t even tell me and see how I feel at my next appointment.
Post # 13
I think I would wait if I were you until your next appointment where you can either just ask or have another ultrasound to see since they probably don’t write that kind of stuff down. I would assume they don’t put the gender on the charts so that someone doesn’t accidentally refer to your baby as a he or she during another appointment. If, by your next appointment, you are still itching to find out just ask them to tell you then. If you find out you may be upset with yourself for not waiting later.
Post # 14
I dont know how they could miss it if they are used to running the ultrasounds, especially for the purpose of the anatomy scan. They have to get pictures of a bunch of different parts of the body to make sure that everything is growing prpoperly. I would imagine that they would take a picture of the gentitals just to make sure that there wasnt an issue?? The ultrasound tech took a look of pictures to give to the doctor and didnt necessarily give them to us.
that being said I would still wait to ask at your next appointment just so you arent upset that you found out when you originally wanted to be team green.