(Closed) Can I exclude an old flame from the guest list??

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think that you need to sit down with your FI and tell him exactly what you just told us but in a bit more detail about your paranoia and inferiority complex about her. Maybe you just need to get to know this girl a bit more. But remember just cuz shes hot doesnt mean she hold his heart (you hold that)

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with solstice that you should just sit down and talk with your FI. Honestly it is the best way. Don’t make your insecurities about his friend though, be honest and tell him how being around her can make you feel. I have felt like this before about a couple girls (who I am now friends with myself), and just talking to my husband about it made me feel a lot better. I don’t know why they made me feel the way they did, he wasn’t interested in them and they weren’t in him. Just talk to him and I bet he will make you see that you are the only person that he has eyes for!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would talk to him as well.  I have had this conversation with my FI a couple of times about certain people.  It’s interesting because I will see a pretty girl and think he’s checking her out and I’ll be like what are you staring at??? and he will say something hilarious like “her hair is greasy” or “her teeth are huge”.  There’s a reason he’s not attracted to her and is attracted to you. 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Let her eat her heart out! He’s marrying you Smile

If they were good friends, yet nothing went on with them, I think you should allow it. There’s very few goodbyes as absolute as marrying in front of an old crush! Plus, you wouldn’t want her to know you’re insecure over her! (Though you have nothing to worry about it!)

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

If his penis has never been in her vag, I think you’re good to go and as Vitsippa said, just let her eat her heart out.

If they have had sex?  I would talk to you FI and tell him how you feel and go from there.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Oneeleven: LOL basicially what she said. 

Not a big deal being insecure. It is a big deal if you make it he focus of you day. There is no way any other woman is going to have your fiances attention on his wedding day, come on. Thats silly.

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