Post # 1
I’ve never let waiting get to me this bad before. The anticipation for Valentine’s Day to get here is literally making me sick. I’ve had the worst case of anxiety for the last four days. My stomach is all flip-floppy and in knots. I’m on edge and jittery and every little thing is getting on my nerves waaaay more than normal.
I guess I’m more anxious about it because the last time SO and I talked about it (a little over two months ago) the reason at the top of the list for him not proposing yet was money. Well, he got his tax refund, and after paying off some bills, there’s still more than enough to buy an engagement ring with, with plenty left over. And all the social pressure that Valentine’s Day brings about is just compounding my feelings.
I’m trying really hard to not bring it up until after, ’cause I don’t wanna ruin any surprise he may have. We share the bills and both have access to each other’s bank accounts, so we don’t really have any secrets regarding money spending with one another. Read: I’d know if he bought one. He hasn’t. But there’s always that 1% chance, that maybe, just maybe……….
I just wanna crawl into a cave and sleep until Monday or Tuesday.
Vent over. Sorry for the novel. Thanks for listening!
Post # 3
no no no! don’t wish away valentine’s day. it is the international day of great candy, cards, and you are allowed to be lovey-dovey all day! haha.
actually, i am trying to put a stopper in my own brain to keep from getting any expectations for monday as well. he told me long ago that he would never propose on a holiday, christmas, flag day, valentine’s, birthdays, never. he just doesn’t like the idea (i dont care when or what day, JUST DO IT).
however, i am fairly certain that he is going to do it this month (ok, he told me…i just am having a hard time believing it), and i can’t help but wonder, maybe maybe maybe! do something fun and enjoy the day for what it is – celebration of love! i’m right there with you though…black friday – valentine’s day is brutal for the waiting!
Post # 4
@soyjoy222: Mine told me he wouldnt do it on a holiday either… cause I might be expecting it… he wants it to be a surprise… he said like one day I come home from work and BAM!! lol… But could our guys be trying to throw us off at all?
Post # 5
@Wonderwoman217: Haha–I’m struggling with my own 1% chance and I’m desperately trying to quash it.
I just want to enjoy Valentine’s day and whatever he does without the looming spector of: “Why haven’t you proposed yet?!” To distract myself I’m trying to think of future dates when it’s more possible/likely that he will propose. :B Maybe not the best answer but it’s the only one I’ve got!
Post # 6
I cant think that he told me that to throw me off or I will go crazy between now and Monday!
But we still can wish!
Post # 7
Good job on keeping it in for 2 months. You’re my hero. I know I’m not a guy, but if I were and I was proposing, I wouldn’t on a holiday. I’d enjoy the holiday and do it on another occasion. I wouldn’t want to be one of a thousand people sharing the same engagement day. Just my 2 cents. If you’ve made it two months, you’ll make it through another holiday, I’m sure. 🙂
Post # 8
@Wonderwoman217: I’m in the same boat. he always said it won’t be on a holiday or anything like that. And we also share a bank account so I would notice. But there is a little tiny voice in the back of my head just thinking “Hmm. Maybe he has been secretly stashing money away for months and he’s going to surprise me!!”
But then I come back to reality and I know that won’t happen. Sigh. I hated V-day when I was single and I’m still not a huge fan of it.
Post # 9
Blarg Valentine’s Day!
@Wonderwoman217: If possible, try to treat the day as any other day. Since that’s all but possible, give yourself things to do this weekend that will help with the nerves – do some heavy yard work, spring cleaning – anyhting to keep your hands and body busy. When you do sit down, hopefully you’ll be too tired to worry. Try your best to think of Monday as a nice night to have dinner out or a nice dinner in – that’s all. It’s just another date night, with no expectations, other than to ahve fun. Maybe spend your time picking out or making a funny type of gift, or a collage or something that will take time to open or appreciate, so you’ll be occupied looking at it with him instead of worrying about something he’s said not to expect on THAT day.
Now, I’ll try to swallow my own advice and keep my brain off my 0.001% chance for Monday.
Post # 10
I can cheer you up. I have a 0% chance of a proposal on valentine’s day. I’m being silly. I’ve put so many expectations (not a ring) on the day that all we’ve done is fight. Long story – won’t bore anyone. I’m thinking we should just cancel valentine’s day from now on and save ourselves the worry.
Post # 11
I feel the same way!! Hoping that this will be it but then my practical side is telling me NO!! NO!! NO!! It’s like I’m having a tug a war in my brain. I’m hoping for him this is it otherwise he is going to have to move out. : (
Post # 12
I agree! Let’s blaze on forth to Tuesday!
Granted, since Vday is a Monday, SO and I will be celebrating this weekend with dinner and a movie (aren’t we fancy? ) and I can’t help but picture that we finish our dinner early and then we make a pitstop in the mall to my dear favorite store, Helzberg Diamonds, and pick a gorgeous ring before our movie.
DOUBTFUL this will happen, so please let’s just fast forward passed it all!!
Post # 13
Agreed: let it be tuesday! I’m 99.99% sure he will propose on v-day, and all we’ve done is argue, cause I didn’t want to know. Sometimes I feel sooo backward, lol. seriously, someone smack me 😛
Post # 14
@LadySapphire: *virtual smack* Feel any better?
Post # 15
@sleepingbeauty88: Yup, plus I just had a heart-to-heart with SO, and it REALLY cleared things up and got us Both to relax. I’m now excited just to spend a day with him on v-day, just cuz we’ll be together 🙂
Post # 16
I think this is how a lot of us feel. To make myself feel better, I’ve just been telling myself affirmatively that it’s NOT going to happen on V-Day, so I should just enjoy the day for what it is. Valentine’s Day is a sweet holiday. I’d hate to let my crazy waiting bug ruin it, you know? Instead, I’m focusing on what we’ll have for dinner, what I’m getting SO and how to make the day as thoughtful as possible. Believe it or not, it’s helping!