Post # 1
We’re having a very small ceremony and reception with only 20 guests. I already know who is coming. At the request of my mother, we are doing formal invitations for my family to have. Can I forgo the response cards? It just seems like a waste of money when I only have 20 guests and I already know their response.
Post # 3
I would. We only have about 40-50 guests and we’re just doing e-mail RSVP. Saves money on postage and lets people procrastinate!
Post # 5
Having a small wedding as well, only 50 invited guests. We asked them to RSVP on our wedding website or via phone. Works as a charm so far!
Post # 6
By all means, forego the inelegancy of reply cards! They are a kludge borrowed from conference pre-registration forms, to try to increase the rate of replies. Formal traditional people do not use them anyway: we throw them in the recycling and write a polite note of repy in our own handwriting on our own stationery and mail them in our own envelope with our own stamp. So if your goal is to be formal or proper, you should not have reply cards.
If your goal were to simply get replies, you still might not see any benefit in using reply cards. Modern non-traditional people will email or phone quite happily if given that option. Casual people who cannot be bothered to reply will not reply anyway. So, what does a bride have to gain from using them?