- ms. rice crispy treat
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
Seriously, what’s up with moms that aren’t there for you emotionally? I thought she was a decent mom when I was a little kid, but as I’ve gotten older I have realized that she sucks. There are many, many “stories” of times that she has been hurtful, and every time something is said or done/not said or done I try to remind myself that she isn’t capable of reaching out and being there emotionally. The past 6 or so months have been really hard as I’ve had a lot going on in my life, and she has totally removed herself from her life. It’s always been like this, I guess it’s just more obvious now.
I got engaged in October and I sent a text out to many people. Her response back was something like “nice”. No phone call or anything.
I got my engagement ring – texted that, again her response was “pretty”.
My dad died a few days after I got engaged, my brother & I had to clean out his apartment (parents have been divorced for decades). My brother was being immature, and claimed that all I cared about was our dad’s money & stuff. He called my mom, she agreed with him, and told us both that I am just selfish and didn’t even care that my dad did. WTF!!!
She hasn’t said whether or not she’s coming to my wedding (she’s in CA, I’m in CO). She doesn’t have any money, so I know she can’t afford a ticket but I was willing to help her out. I had to bring it up the other night because I need to know how many of my siblings tickets I need to buy. She also said she probably won’t be able to come now because my step-dad just found out he has cancer and has to have radiation everyday for a few months. By August he’ll be in horrible shape. My grandma also lives with my mom, and she can’t be left unattended. Ok, but still, when were you going to say anything?
I applied to law school last year, and her response was ‘why would you want to do that’. I recently applied to/got into a masters program, and emailed friends and family about it yesterday. She didn’t respond, but I am assuming read my email because after I sent my email out she sent an email out on my step-dad’s radiation/cancer stuff. She hasn’t called me either.
It all hurts. No matter how old I get, or how many times this s**t happens to me, I can’t get over it.
Anyone else have moms that suck? How do you get through it?