Post # 1
We just found out last Monday that we were misinformed (big time!) by our church’s receptionist. You see, my FI and I are both Roman Catholics, but i was unfortunately married before in a catholic church. Because of the misinformatoin we were told (and because i was soo overjoyed when we were told an annullmen is not necessary) i didn’t inquire much nor did i do any more research. So bottom line, we have less than 4 months to go before the big day and was told yesterday that we cannot be married in our Church because my marriage was not annulled. You can imagine the frustration i’m in since we even finished and received our re-marriage certificate from the Archdiocese last month and not once did they mention the word annullment! So now, we’re desperate to find a venue for our ceremony since our receptoin has been booked (and our invitations are ready!) I heard from someone that she knows this couple who apparently “got married in an anglican church without getting an annullment”. What’s the truth behind this? We’d love to do our ceremony in a chapel instead but most of the chapels (here) can only accomodate a limited number for guests ranging from 10-25 guests only. Can we get married in an Anglican church without having an annullment? If so, is there some sort of “coverting” to become Anglican we or one of us need to do?
Post # 3
I’d call the church you are looking at and ask. to the best of my knowledge the Catholic church is the only ones that do and require annulments
Post # 4
It depends on what your goal is.
If you want to have a valid sacramental marriage in the Catholic church, then going forward with the wedding in a different church gets you into an even deeper mess. If it’s important to you to have a valid Catholic marriage, it might be best to talk to your reception site, florist, photographer, about rescheduling and transferring your deposits to a later date. It’s too bad about the invitations already being printed, but ultimately that’s a minor issue compared to the sacramental validity of your marriage.
If the primary goal is to have your wedding on the date you already set, then it will depend on the other church’s rules about members vs. non-members having their weddings, etc. You could get married by a Justice of the Peace or wherever. Any of those options, however, would mean that you couldn’t take Communion in the Catholic Church until you sought an annulment for the first marriage and a convalidation for the second.
Post # 5
Are you sure? The anglican Church is not the Catholic Church. There is no affiliation at all. That doesn’t sound right.
Post # 6
What an awful situation! I can’t believe they didn’t tell you what would be required! They are supposed to have you supply a certified copy of your baptismal certificate first thing, right away when you have your first meeting with the priest! and on the back would be listed all your sacraments, including the date of your first marriage within the church. Basically your wedding church reports back to your baptismal church- hey this person has gotten married, please note their file.
The priest is supposed to check the back of the baptismal certificate and if he sees a first marriage listed he’s supposed to go whoa nelly and make sure everything is in order! So that there is plenty of time to plan and you’re not left holding the bag.
If you’re Catholic, you can’t be married in an Anglican church without special permission from the local Catholic bishop. It’s not hard to get the permission if everything else is in order, but if you need an annulment it won’t work. Until you actually get the annulment.
From the Anglican perspective, the Anglican or Episcopalian parishes that I know of function similar to Catholic parishes – they want one party to be Anglican and sometimes they want you to be a member of the parish for 6-12 months before the wedding date is set. I do know one couple that was engaged for a shorter period but they were “known” to the pastor and the groom was in the military. You also have to take marriage counseling from the Anglican priest. I am not Anglican though so I don’t know if some parishes are looser? I am only familiar with a couple of their churches and how they do it. So it might be worthwhile to call.
But you must be careful and aware of what you’re doing. Again the marriage would not be recognized in the Catholic Church, which may or may not cause problems for you in the future. You could always have the marriage convalidated later (going to the Catholic Church later and having it blessed and recognized after obtaining an annulment). What I would do is postpone the wedding tbh. Again I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this!
Post # 7
This is a multi part answer…
The answer is that yes, you can get married in an Anglican church without converting, as long as you are both baptised Christians. However, the priest may legitimately refuse to marry you if you are not members of his congregation. You would be taking a chance, and he could well say no.
If you marry within an Anglican church, your marriage will not be recognised by the Catholic church. You would be classed as living in sin until you got your annulment, and then had a convalidation ceremony within the Catholic church.
It depends what your goal is. If you want to get married Catholic, this is not the answer. If you just want to get married in a Christian ceremony of any denomination, and you don’t care what the Catholic church approves of, that’s fine.
Of course, if moving your date is not an option, you could try to arrange an Anglican ceremony on the day, whilst simultaneously trying to get your annulment. If you get the annulment in time, you could then have a convalidation the following day within the Catholic church. This is my backup plan if we can’t get our complicated paperwork for the Catholic church done on time (although neither of use need an annulment, there are other paperworky type problems), because I know that if the worst comes to the worst then we can get a convalidation at FI’s parents’ church the day after.
Post # 8
@mitchiedoll: I replied on your other thread, but forgot to use the reply feature. Basically, if you’re just looking to get married in a church and don’t care about the denomination the UCCan is one to look into.
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@mitchiedoll: I am dealing with the exact same issue. We have been exploring getting married in the anglican church and then later getting the marriage convalidated by the catholic church after the annulment comes through. The anglican church that I have been in contact with has given me the information that the previous marriage does not need to be “annuled” per se but they still do look into it ( to my knowlegde, I am not an expert by any means). You will need permission by the anglican bishop to marry (in your diocese) if you have been previously married.
I have to give them a bunch of information though about my marriage/divorce (not nearly as lengthy as the catholic church) . At least one person needs to be a baptized christian to get married in the anglican church.
And then there are all the other issues posted by the PP’s.
good luck and PM me if you want to chat!
Post # 11
@mitchiedoll: Did you get things sorted out?
Post # 12
hi, we actually hired an officiant, a priest that i can’t remember what religion he’s in LOL, to do a religious ceremony for us in the same venue where we’ll be holding our reception. We’ll be doing all the veil, cord, coins, unity candles too.
When i went to the Archdiocese, they told me that it’ll take 3-5 years to process the annulment, whi i think is a ridiculous long wait. We might go through with the annulment one day, but right now, we really don’t have the time to worry about with all the stress and excitement as we only have 5 more weeks before our big day!
Post # 13
hi, when i spoke with the Archiodecese, they mentioned that i have to have witnesses, since my ex is in another country, and that it’ll take 3-5 years for it to be processed. they also said that we can still go to mass after have our non-Catholic wedding, but we won’t be able to receive the holy communion.
Post # 14
If you believe in the Catholic sacrament of marriage, here is what I would do. Get married in a civil ceremony (justice of the peace) and then go through the annulment process so that your marriage can blessed in the Catholic Church.