Post # 1
Okay, please tell me if I am overreacting, because I tend to do that sometimes… but I can’t help feeling just a teeeeeeny bit offended.
I was recently a BM in a close family member’s wedding in early June. At the rehearsal she gave all the BMs gifts and a thank you for supporting her, for the bach. party, for the bridal shower, etc. (I also got a separate thank you right after the bridal shower).
But I never received a thank you after her wedding for the wedding gift. Honestly, I wouldn’t care.. because she did thank me already – both after the bridal shower and after the rehearsal, but the wedding gift was from both me AND my SO. So there is no thank you from her to both of us for the wedding gift. I can’t help but be a little offended.
Obviously I’m not going to say anything, because I feel like it’s just a tiny little thing.. I just wanted to know if I’m overreacting about it and you ladies know much more about etiquette than I do!!
Post # 3
She may have not done them yet. If she got married in June and went away for a couple of weeks for a honeymoon then she has been back for less than 2 months. Some people get them out right away and others take a couple of months. I’m sure she just hasn’t gotten to them yet.
Post # 4
I’m still waiting on a thank you from December. We received a thank you from a November wedding earlier this week. I’m not saying it’s right but there is a good chance your thank you is still in the works.
Post # 5
Maybe she is overwhelmed about writing up alll the Thank You’s. I know when my time comes I want to make sure that my Thank You cards are well thought out and personal.
From reading previous posts, Thank You cards are generally sent within 3 months of a wedding. So I would think, in her defense, she still has some time since you said the wedding was in June.
Now that I think about it, I went to 2 weddings in June and still have not recieved Thank You Cards. I’m not taking it personally because both are close friends of mine and I know they are busy with their new lives.
Post # 6
Haha okay, maybe I am just jumping the gun! I’m not really taking it personally, but I couldn’t help but think about it!
Post # 7
Not that I’m going to wait this long, but I thought (and this could be totally wrong) that brides had a year to get their Thank Yous out. I’m still waiting for my professional photos so that I can choose one for the Thank You cards. So, depending on how long they take, that will dictate when I can get my Thank Yous out. I know a friend of mine who got married in Oct. 2009 and she still hasn’t received her prof. photos….so she finally had to go ahead without the pictures she wanted to do for her thank yous.
Post # 8
As crazy as it sounds……I think etiquette is that the newlyweds have 1 year to send to out thank yous. I would want to get it over with but pretty sure I have been told this!
Post # 9
Yikes a year?! I had no idea!! This is why I have you girls around haha!