Can I have a moment to be upset- maybe a hug

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@PoppyH:  I’m really sorry ::hugs:: normally if you let a test sit too long the other line will appear, so I would try to ignore anything that happens after the amount of time the instructions tell you to wait. That must have been really upsetting having 9 people ask you like that (pretty weird & rude in my opinion but that’s besides the point). Do something nice for yourself today, whatever helps you relax….walk in the park, buy a new book, etc. Talk to your husband, tell him how upset all the pregnancy questions made you, he may not fully understand how you’re feeling, but I’m sure it’ll make you feel better to share with him.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@PoppyH:  Hmm was the first test you took on 7 DPO an internet cheapie? If so, I’ve heard that a light evap line can show on those after a couple hours. I would trust the FRER in this case. I’m sorry that you are dealing with this. I hope that maybe it is just too early to see anything yet and maybe in a couple days, you will get your BFP. You never know.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@PoppyH:  I had one turn when I was younger, I was going for the opposite result…but totally freaked me out too!! They really should design them better. & Lol don’t smother your hubby, that’ll def put off TTC : ) He was probably trying to downplay it, or just being dense. It’s ok to be upset. In the same situation I would be upset too. Now, I demand you get a pedi & coffee ASAP Wink

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I was a compulsive POAS-er and had some tests do very weird things, including turn after the 10 minute mark. It is so heartwrenching and awful, I really feel for you.

After about 2 cycles of TTC (we were planning for 6 months prior, so I had a good long time to fixate on it), I broke down to my DH. It turns out that he also was feeling the pressure, but dealing with it in a different way, and trying to be the strong one for me. That may or may not be your DH, but either way, I promise you, he feels it to some degree too.

Know, and trust, that almost all women who want to get pregnant, do. It takes some women longer, and some women don’t even try, but all are likely to have equally healthy, happy babies. Hang in there and ((((giant hugs)))).

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@PoppyH:  It’s tough, isn’t it? When my friend was TTC I couldn’t understand why she was upset that she wasn’t pregnant after 4 cycles. I get it now! I’m on cycle 5 and was upset when I got BFN. Good thing is you still may be pregnant yet.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@PoppyH:  Sorry to hear :-/ People shouldn’t be asking those questions anyway. I am on cycle 3 as well and tested at 7 DPO too, so I feel for ya. Just because we haven’t been trying near as long doesn’t mean we aren’t entitled to feel let down, ya know?

Post # 11
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1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Virtual cookies & hugs being sent to you right now!!

Post # 12
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765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

🙁 I feel your pain. We’re currently TTC (cycle #3 too) and every other day I feel a new symptom that makes me think “Is this it?!” I had a similar scenario happen although the line that I found a few hours later on the test was faint at best and definitely an evap line. It’s so discouraging and frustrating. And then of course I talk to girlfriends and they’re all, “I-got-pregnant-on-the-first-try.” -_-

Hang in there. You are not alone in your frustrations

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@PoppyH:  Well, that just sucks then!! Big internet hugs to you lady!

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

((((HUGS)))) TTC is so stressful, you want it so bad and having people ask you that, how rude!! I agree with some other bees, you need a mani-pedi or something nice for yourself!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@PoppyH:  people are so nosey. If I got asked tat by nine different people, I’d go batshit on them….next time I would just say ” nope I’m not! Why? Do I look like im pregnant??” Just make them feel just as uncomfortable as they make you feel…..

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