Post # 1
I’m getting upset about the whole wedding thing. I have bent to everyones whim. Nothing is what I’ve dreamed of. My Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaids have been at odds, to the point where the Maid/Matron of Honor and my FI’s sister got into a fight at my bridal shower in front of everyone. My bridal shower didn’t feel like mine.. I know they worked so hard and I appreciated it. But there was no corsage. no sash, no special chair, nothing to make me stand out. No one even cared when I was opening gifts.. I feel bad saying this, but I feel like no one really cares it was my day/party.
My dress isn’t what I wanted/doesn’t give me any sort of love feeling. (Can’t buy another one I have 2 I dislike)
I hate our venue. (I gave in to FI’s parents when they had a hissy fit that the one I wanted was too far away)
While I love our preist the church is so ugly.
I don’t like the color of the bridesmaid dresses (and I picked it out! I’m such an idiot)
Our invites (everyone had to have their input when we ran out of ribbon they just said to shove the plain invites in the envelope, I wanted it to be perfect)
The grooms cake prices I’ve been getting is ridiculous
I know it’s supposed to be about Fiance and I, I just.. want everything to be perfect, not for anyone else but for me.
Post # 3
I am sorry you feel this way about your wedding, I can’t imagine that feeling. what do you like about your wedding? What decisions did you make that you are excited to see played out?
Post # 4
That my family will be there.. well the ones that care. And none as of right now..
I just want something to go right!
Post # 5
I promise once your married all of this stuff will seem so silly. Please please try and enjoy your day. You only get it once pumpkin.
Post # 6
I know.. but the feeling that no one cares doesn’t go away..
Post # 7
I am so sorry that you are feeling so down….
But I don’t think there is such a thing as a perfect wedding.
There will always be things that don’t go as planned.
Can you try to make a list of the things you are really happy with?
Post # 8
I know there is no such thing as a perfect wedding.. I’d just like one part where I am super happy and excited. It makes me honestly not excited for the wedding.. oh well.
Post # 9
I know you’re upset and feel like you’re “bending to everyone’s whim,” but I bet your FI’s parents (and your family and friends) appreciate that you gave them so much input about your wedding. This is a ceremony where you’re becoming a part of each other’s families. Years from now, I bet you’ll be glad that you started it off by giving them some input.
Post # 10
This might be a little presumptious, and I totally apologize if it is, but I went through the same thing as you a few months ago. Is it possible that something deeper is upsetting you beyond how the day will look, ie is your Fiance not as involved as you would like him to be, or is something else going on? Once i realized that some of my issues were with my Fiance and not the wedding, we were able to work through them, and now i’m excited again.
Some other wedding changes I had to make to make me feel better…
1. I hated my dress, but it was a sample and an amazing price. I ended up finding a sash and a headpiece which i wouldn’t have been able to afford. I still don’t like my dress without the beaded sash, but with it, I’m in love.
2. I changed the color scheme. sure it irritated some people, and we wasted a few hundred dollars, but it felt like my wedding!
3. we found a church that i love and started attending it, so it eflt like our home. One of the pastors agreed to marry us, and now i couldn’t be happier.
I made all of these big changes at the 2-3 month mark. If you aren’t happy about things that are changeable, then fix them. But if they can’t be changed, like the venue, make the best of it and communicate what you are feeling with your Fiance. Chances are, he’s far more worried about you on the wedding day than what his family thinks.
Remember, try not to get caught up in the details, the most important thing is the marriage!