(Closed) Can I have a rewind button?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am sorry you feel this way about your wedding, I can’t imagine that feeling. what do you like about your wedding? What decisions did you make that you are excited to see played out?

Post # 5
2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I promise once your married all of this stuff will seem so silly. Please please try and enjoy your day. You only get it once pumpkin.


Post # 7
1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am so sorry that you are feeling so down….

But I don’t think there is such a thing as a perfect wedding.

There will always be things that don’t go as planned.

Can you try to make a list of the things you are really happy with?


Post # 9
368 posts
Helper bee

I know you’re upset and feel like you’re “bending to everyone’s whim,” but I bet your FI’s parents (and your family and friends) appreciate that you gave them so much input about your wedding. This is a ceremony where you’re becoming a part of each other’s families. Years from now, I bet you’ll be glad that you started it off by giving them some input.

Post # 10
30 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

This might be a little presumptious, and I totally apologize if it is, but I went through the same thing as you a few months ago.  Is it possible that something deeper is upsetting you beyond how the day will look, ie is your Fiance not as involved as you would like him to be, or is something else going on?  Once i realized that some of my issues were with my Fiance and not the wedding, we were able to work through them, and now i’m excited again.

Some other wedding changes I had to make to make me feel better…

1. I hated my dress, but it was a sample and an amazing price.  I ended up finding a sash and a headpiece which i wouldn’t have been able to afford.  I still don’t like my dress without the beaded sash, but with it, I’m in love.  

2. I changed the color scheme.  sure it irritated some people, and we wasted a few hundred dollars, but it felt like my wedding!

3. we found a church that i love and started attending it, so it eflt like our home.  One of the pastors agreed to marry us, and now i couldn’t be happier.


I made all of these big changes at the 2-3 month mark.  If you aren’t happy about things that are changeable, then fix them.  But if they can’t be changed, like the venue, make the best of it and communicate what you are feeling with your Fiance.  Chances are, he’s far more worried about you on the wedding day than what his family thinks.


Remember, try not to get caught up in the details, the most important thing is the marriage!

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