Can I invite girls that are not my bridesmaids to the bachelorette party?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I did. I had a small bridal party, but I have a lot of girlfriends that still wanted to be included in the bachelorette party! We had a blast! I gave out bridesmaid gifts and I also included small gifts for those that were not in the party because I love them too! 🙂

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think that it’s fine to invite people who you’re close to and are inviting to the wedding to the bachelorette, even if they’re not bridesmaids. Some of us decided not to aska all of our very good friends to be bridemaids and, instead, chose a small handful.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You can invite whoever you want! It’s normal around my area (upper midwest) that you do invite the wedding patry, and friends to the bachelorette party. I’ve only seen a couple bachelorette parties where it’s just the wedding party – and to me that’s strange. BUT, to each their own.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It’s totally normal and typical to have other friends invited that aren’t bridesmaids, otherwise you’d only have like 5-6 people at your party! I’ve been invited to several bachelorette parties when I wasn’t a BM. Typically siblings, female cousins, friends from high school/college/work, etc get invited to the bachelorette. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’ve never heard of a bachelor party for just the bride and bridesmaids.  Where I am from, you can have a lot of girls you know and are friends with!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Totally! I went to a bachelorette last summer for a girl who’s bridal party I wasn’t in! I had an awesome time 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Absolutely! Invite who you want!

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

Of course you can include any friends whomever you like.  B parties are not a recognized thing in terms of wedding etiquette and so there are no “rules”  any more so than there would be for any time your friends decided to get a group together.   Just make sure the organizer let’s people  know in advance if  it is a group sponsored evening, exactly  how much they will be expected to contribute,  and that it is clear they are not being “invited.” 

 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Absolutely okay to invite them! 

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Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yes, as long as they’re invited to the wedding as well.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

AshNikSkisCo:  As a friend that was invited to the Bachelorette but not to be in the bridal party, I can say that I enjoyed the night out but it also underscored the fact that I wasn’t a member of the bridal party.  It was almost like I am a good enough friend to pay for her Bachelorette party and buy her lingerie but not good enough to be in the bridal party.  If you’re going to do this make sure to invite a lot of extra people (my friend had 8 BMs and a MOH and invited an additional 10 to her Bachelorette.) so it’s not glaringly obvious that one or two people were left out of the bridal party for whatever reason.

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