Can I invite people to reception only??

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think the rule is that you can invite to the reception only but not to the wedding only. I think in that case the wedding really should just be immediate family, though – not 100 people for the ceremony and 200 for the reception. Some people may find this gift grabby. Think carefully about this.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

In the UK, it’s perfectly usual to invite to the reception only (but never the other way around) but I’m not so sure about the US!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This is a commonplace practice in the UK where it is quite usual for a lesser number of guests to attend the actual wedding with more guests coming along to an evening reception. But that’s here. Things tend to be very different in the US.

However, it’s certainly the better way round if you need to limit guest numbers because inviting more to the ceremony than the reception will never go down well!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

@Boxerlover24:  I would probably find a way to let ppl know there is limited seating, you know to avoid anyone saying, so I’m good enough to give you a present but not good enough to make the list of the important guest who get to see the ceremony. Even though I know you do NOT mean it that way, people are strange and weddings make them stranger. I personally have never heard of reception only invites but it seems from the pp it is common in some places. I have heard of ppl being invited after dinner because of seating space and/or cost per plate, but they didn’t want x,y,z to think the bride and groom didn’t want them there period. Maybe find out what is “acceptable” in your area. Good luck!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

A friend of mine did this and I thought it was fine. I’m sure most guys (and many girls) would be happy to not have to attend the wedding ceremony itself, yet still get to enjoy the reception!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

As long as it is not an hour long church wedding I would rather stand at the ceremony than miss it.  But I think as long as the people invited to the reception only are invited to the whole thing it is ok.  The issues people have with tiered receptions is when more people are invited to the reception but only after dinner has been served.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

This may be common practice in the UK, but it definitely isn’t in the US. Even though the reception is the party, I would be very put off only only be invited as half a wedding.  Why not cut your guest list to only family and close friends for the whole wedding – have 100 or less people total for the whole thing?

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Double post

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MsW-to-MrsM:  I don’t see how it could be gift grabby, given that the reception is generally the part where the hosts of the wedding incur the greatest expense!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@FutureMrsLAL:  I agree. I was recently invited to a wedding reception but not to the ceremony and I was a bit miffed. If I’m going to travel a long distance to go a wedding, I want to be there for the wedding ceremony.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve never been to a wedding where people skipped the wedding but went to the reception. That would be super rude to skip the part of the event that the reception celebrates! I would think it was really weird if I was only invited to the reception – i’d think it was kind of gift grabby, honestly. Like, I wasn’t important enough to invite to the main event.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@jdhall89:  The reception is where everyone drops the gifts off for the bride/groom. Even though yes, it’s the more expensive part of the day, it is also the most expensive part of the event for the guest.

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