- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
My father has a pretty small family – I have one uncle and one first cousin. He has two second cousins that he grew up with but I am not very close to them. Honestly, they aren’t very nice people and I don’t enjoy being around them on the rare occasion that I am. However, one of them has a daughter – my second cousin – who I have grown fairly close to compared to the rest of my dad’s extended family. We don’t talk that often, but we enjoy each other’s company when we see each other and keep in touch through Facebook.
We are trying to keep the wedding as small as we can manage, and therefore are only inviting aunts, uncles, first cousins & very good friends – no extended family or work acquaintances, that kind of thing. This cut-off rule means my second cousin that I stay in touch with would not be included. I would really like to invite her but I feel like its rude to do so without inviting the rest of the crew – which is an additional 15 or so people. Keep in mind that a big part of my decision is that my parents are divorced, the wedding is at my mother’s house, and these people has been very hurtful to my mother. I would like to avoid hosting them at her home, and having a smaller wedding is a perfect reason.
SO- should I just explain to this cousin that the wedding is small and that’s why she isn’t getting an invitation? Or can I invite her without inviting everyone else?