- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
I’ve been debating what I would like my BMs to wear as far as jewelry goes…
I had originally given all my girls the color I wanted them to wear, the fabric type, and a designer and told them to pick out which dress they liked the best/would wear again. I love weddings in which all the BMs are wearing different dresses! Well, that didn’t work out because all of my BMs picked the same dress… LOL I’m not upset by it at all, but I thought it was REALLY funny. How often do four different women with completely different body types agree on the same dress? Here’s what they picked in satin (ignore the price- I got it for cheaper via my fab wedding planner): http://lulakate.com/collections/bridesmaids/ashley-dress/ (the color is a soft baby pink)
I’m paying for the girls to have their hair done the day of in whatever way they want, and I told them they could wear whatever silver heels they have handy. But what about jewelry?
I thought about buying them each a earring/necklace/bracelet set but when I was a BM and the bride did that for me I never ever wore the jewelry again… I’d rather give them a gift like a nice canvas tote bag that I know they could use over and over after the wedding (all my BMs love tote bags).
I’m wearing pearls and I would really love my girls to wear them as well. Would it be okay if I just asked them to wear a pearl necklace and earrings of their choice? Single strand, choker, triple strand, long knot necklace.. I don’t care. I think it would look neat if they had on all different styles of necklaces…. or am I being silly?
Now here’s my OCD side coming out, and what I want your all’s opinions on (along with my questions above):
I’m just worried that the pearl necklaces, since they probably won’t all be the same color, will look strange when all of the girls are together for pictures. What do you all think? I could tell them “white pearls” but there’s still a lot of variation. Will that be okay? Is anyone aware of pictures of someone else doing the same thing- different pearl necklaces? I’m sure it won’t be a big deal on my actual wedding day but during the planning process I can’t help but fret over these little details!
Would it be okay to just ask them to wear pearl studs or would that look strange with the neckline of the dress? All of them have pearl studs but I think they would all have to go out and buy dangling pearl earrings. I’d really like if they didn’t have to buy any jewelry. Being a BM is expensive enough!!
Should I tell them to stick with plain pearls or allow them to have crystals, etc., in the necklaces as well? I’m concerned that only one of them will pick a blingy necklace and the rest will look bland in comparison.
Here is my wedding earrings and bracelet + E-ring (I can’t wear a necklace with the neckline of my dress and my hair will be up):
Any help would be much appreciated!!