- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Let me start this off by saying that I do love FIL because he is family….FIL and MIL met after me and my DH had been together for three years, they got married within 5 months. FIL was in the Army his whole life and retired after being diagnosed with 100% disability due to PTSD. I am ery patient with his disability issues but struggle to handle his other issues…Like the fact that he gives me and DH marriage/relationship advice when he has had 3 failed marriages and hasn’t been with MIL for nealy as long (they did get married before us though).
When my in laws came to visit they stayed home with me ALL day EVERY day (DH was still working). Father in law would bitch about being stuck in the house and then refuse to go anywhere when I offered. Then when DH came home I would offer to drive us all to dinner or ect. (DH would be tired and unwilling to drive) and my father in law would freak out and insist on taking his truck. I never understood but whatever. Then FIL wanted to get drunk one night and asked DH to drive the truck back to our home, DH got us all back safely. The NEXT night DH needed our car to go to a work function and MIL wanted to get something from Walgreens. Well, MIL is night blind and FIL didn’t want to leave the home so I offered to drive the truck….FIL freaks out and asked my DH to drive the truck but DH needed to get going. I then again offer to drive and FIL freaks out again saying he will just take us….
The next day we decide to travel an hour or so up north to see the snow…MIL tells me secretly that we need to take our car because they have used too much gas/money. I asked why they kept using their truck when me and DH always offered to drive…She said she wasn’t sure. Well, DH was again tired and asked me to make the drive up North, FIL hears this and says we will take the truck but MIL told him that wouldn’t happen. I drive us up north and FIL keeps making comments saying ” Good thing there are Oh shit handles in here” and “it bothers me how much your white knuckling that wheel”…..I was beyond annoyed.
On this drive my FIL begins to pick fights with my DH about things going on at our Air Force Base….DH explained everything to FIL calmly but FIL would insit that my DH was wrong on everything. DH was tired and grumpy so they argued. I mean, they were discussing things that were apart of DH’s job! FIL continued to pester DH and poke at my driving and DH snaps, we pull over at a shopping center.
In the parking lot FIL saw a black person and a bigger white chick, he made fun of them both. I got so mad that I turned around and said we would not get to see the snow AND eat dinner on time so we needed to turn back.
How can someone be so rascist and mean? I was livid at the idea that he would so openly make fun of two strangers! During his stay he also decided to make fun of our state for allowing gay marriage and accused our mexican neighboors of smoking weed. I was done with his BS and stopped staying home with him and MIL during the day. They stayed two weeks…..
On the last night with us he decided to bitch about our dishes…I wash dinners dishes in the morning, every morning. I made every meal during their stay and washed every dish after every meal. He made a comment on the last night about how lazy I am to leave dishes in the sink after dinner…They started movies right after dinner EVERY night and he would complain when it took me too long to serve dessert or make everyone coffee/tea. On the last night he forcibly did the dishes and would put things in the wrong place while making comments about “just getting it done”. I got overwhelmed and didn’t go back into the kitchen until the end when I heard our disposal make a weird noise. He got a dish scrubby stuck in our garbage disposal! I did not freak out but asked him to leave everything alone….There was no sorry but only a “well, just call management!” I got so mad that I went to bed early. DH joined me and we both sat in bed fuming.
I don’t think I will EVER allow FIL in my home again….Ever! My Rant is now finished.