Post # 1
I have 2 bridesmaids and a MOH. One is not a big partier or drinker, the other two are just as broke as I am (and by that I mean very). At my shower they mentioned a bach. party and I told them we should do something very low key like go out to dinner and have a couple drinks, or have a girly movie night at one of their places. I wanted to make it as stress free and as afforable as possible.
Fast forward to a month before the wedding and while FI is getting word about his bar closing – stripper having – everyone and his brothers invited party…. not a peep from my girls. Either they’re great at keeping secrets (which is a bad idea with my crazy work schedule) or no ones planned anything.
I don’t hold anything against the girls and I know that they care and are there for me, but I’ll be a bit sad if I don’t do anything. I work 7 days a week and haven’t had a night out with my friends in months. I could really use a night to destress with some females.
So… is it in poor taste to try to organize something myself? Should I outright ask them if they’re going to do anything? What’s a good way to bring it up? Will the bridesmaids feel bad that they didn’t/couldn’t plan anything?
Post # 3
I think its ok to plan yourself and or bring it up. The only time I would say its not ok is it you were planning this crazy all out expensive party that you want them to pay for. Which it doesnt seem like you want so- Go For It!
Post # 4
I think its ok to ask your girls what the details are of your bacherlorette party if you ask in the right way. Then, you will find out if plans are underway..or not. If no plans are underway, I think its ok to mention that you would really love a bachelorette party..even if its low key and inexpensive girls night.
There is no harm in asking, and once your BM realize you just want to spend some fun time together, im sure everyone will get on the ball.
I helped plan my own bachelorette party b/c my friends had no idea what I wanted. Once I gave them lots of ideas and feedback, we had a great time planning it all and everyone had a great night. So I dont think being apart of the planning process is bad at all.
Post # 5
I had to pretty much plan my bach party. Most of my bridesmaids live out of town. I did ask for their opinions as to what to do, and just went for the consensus. It was fun!