Can I play a funeral song at my wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1745 posts
Bumble bee

It isn’t what I would think of at all! I would see it as a mother daughter shebang.

Post # 4
241 posts
Helper bee

i would see no issue with that. i think the song is popular enough not to be inextricably linked with that one scene.

Post # 5
3646 posts
Sugar bee

Absolutely use it. I didn’t see the movie, so I had no idea about the scene, although I’ve heard the song numerous times. My daughter considered it, for her father-daughter dance. He’s fought an incurable/untreatable muscle wasting disease, for almost 10 years, and the word “hero” is so appropriate for him. (I’ve found they don’t play the entire song, for the parent dances, since most have lyrics that repeats, so it may not last as long, as the original).

Post # 6
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn

 andy85:  its your wedding – do what you want! if its meaningful to you then play it.

i walked up the aisle to ‘the ice dance’ from Edward Scissorhands – in the movie it plays just before Edward slashes Kims hand open… not a moment that screams wedding – but the piece of music is stunning. im sure NOONE will be thinking about what movie scene your father daughter dance is from. if you love it – have it.

  • This reply was modified 2 years ago by  weird_bunny.
Post # 7
1201 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

sandy85: My partner sings that to me when I need cheering up (he’s tone deaf so it is funny in an excrutiating corny way), it’s more than a scene in a film I think. The words are simple and would resonate with a lot of people.

Post # 8
2364 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

sandy85:  I don’t see a single thing wrong with it!  Funny enough, my best friend always references that song to her mom.  

My father also died when I was young and my mom is giving me away.  I chose this song by Carrie Underwood.  Are you and your mom literally dancing together?  I suppose that’s what we’re doing too but I don’t want it to be awkward!! I understand ALL your concerns!

Post # 9
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’ve never seen Beaches, I know it’s from the movie but I didn’t know it’s a funeral song.  I think it’s a beautiful tribute song and would be lovely for you and your mom.

Post # 10
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

sandy85:  I didn’t see the movie so I wouldn’t have thought of death at all. Like a PP said I think the song is popular enough on its own.

Post # 11
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

I actually don’t think of movies at all when I hear songs (unless the song was made for that specific movie, like magic carpet ride or something). Or if it was super recent like “Let it go, LET IT GOOOOO” lol

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