Post # 1
My bf’s girl best friend is planning to get married and she asked both of us to be in her wedding as bridesmaid and groomsman. But we are not gonna be paired together. We are gonna be paired up with her friends whom we have never seen before. The reason is that the guy who will get paried with me got recently engagged and his FI is gonna be jealous if he gets paried with a girl or a friend who she knows. And, the brides-to-be and I are not all that close and I don’t know any of her friends and anyone in her wedding party either. Our couple also had several arugments over her throughtout our relationship as well. So I feel extremely awkward to be her bridesmaid. Is there any polite way to decline such an offer? or do you think I should accept this offer favoring my bf? I’m so confused. Thanks for your input.
Post # 3
If you don’t feel comfortable or close to her, decline. It’s better than being unhappy and tension from being in a wedding you don’t want to be.
Post # 4
You can absolutely say no. It seems like that’s what’s best for you.
Post # 5
Not being paired with my actual partner wouldn’t be a deterrent to me, but I’d probably decline just based on the fact that it’s a huge expense to be a bridesmaid and I wouldn’t do it for anyone but one of my very best friends/close relatives.
Post # 6
Being a bridesmaid takes a lot of time, effort, and money, so if deep down you truly don’t want to be in it, I would politely decline the offer. It kind of sounds like drama, too, so it sounds to me like it’d be best for you to say no.
Post # 7
Not being paired with my FI or the idea that some other broad will be jealous of me being paired with her bf wouldnt bother me IF the bride to be was someone I was close too. If you arent comfortable then dont do it and if you arent comfortable, chances are she will know why and probably understand.
Post # 8
1) Talk it over with your BF and make sure he understands your reservations
2) It’s absolutely 100% OK to say no, just don’t waffle on it (“Yeah, I don’t know, I can only say maybe to you right now”) and be gracious about it.
Being “paired” with someone else for a 30 minute ceremony won’t be that big a deal.
Post # 9
I think it’s fine to say no to her. Give her a polite excuse like you will be too busy, saving money, etc. but you will happily attend her wedding on the day of.
Like Anise said, also be sure to talk with your BF and have him understand as well.
Post # 10
Being a bridemaids takes alot of time and money. I wouldn’t do it unless I was 100% sure I wanted to. Just tell the bride…I’m sure she will understand. 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
You can say no, especially if you two aren’t close…I don’t get why she asked you to be a BM…
Post # 12
Thanks for the comments, girls! I’ve talked to my bf and told the bride that she can replace me with her friend’s FI. And I also gave her polite excuse that I’m gonna be busy with family stuffs in coming months. But she said it wouldn’t work out to replace me with her friend’s FI and thinking to cancel the bridal party instead. Is it my responsible for that? I feel guilty.
Post # 13
@white_witch1457: No, not your problem! She is probably trying to make you feel guilty! Just tell her to think it over a bit more before making a rash decision and cancelling the whole wedding party!
Post # 14
@white_witch1457: i would say no. why waste the money your not close to her i hope shes not just trying to fill in her bridal party i know it sounds mean to say but it happens.
P.S. my cousin who i am close with asked me to be a bridesmaid and i declined