Post # 1
I had my first floral consultation yesterday… Eye opener!! FI and I are paying for our wedding ourselves, and our budget needs to stay put. Flowers aren’t high on our prioirty list so I am not willing to go over the $300 we have set for floral. I felt this should be doable since we are not decorating the reception area at all (it is at a nice italian resturaunt and their regular rose/candle centerpieces will be used). I only need my bouquet, going to do wrist corsages for the bridesmaid and MOH.
My questions, can I do away with bouts completely? The FI cringed when I showed him a photo of what I was leaning towards for him, and said “Its not like I love wearing flowers”. So, I thought okay, let’s do pocket squares for the Groom, BM, and GM. (colors are black and ivory, so figured black pocket squares for the BM and GM and ivory for the Groom). Will that look okay? Anyone else out there doing this? If I don’t do bouts for the bridal party, do I need to do them for the FOB, FOG, and GPa’s. What would I do for them instead, pocket squares as well?
What about corsages for the MOB, MOG, and GMa’s? Are those a must, or could I do a single rose handed to each as they are walked down the aisle?
Has anyone moved away from bouts and corsages for family, did the family members mind, feel left out?
Final question, anyone have any good leads on inexpensive pocket squares?
Post # 3
We are doing pocket sqaures for the men and not having any flowers at all in the wedding. We are really not that interested in spending the money on something we do not care about. Lighting is a bigger prioriety for me so thats where our floral budget went. I am not carrying a bouqet since both parents are walking me down the aisle, we are having non floral centerpieces, and my girls are carrying clutches. We are not doing any flowers for the important ladies either, but i think a single red rose would be sufficient.
Post # 4
You can always do the fake flower route. I went through this site http://www.thebridesbouquet.com/ for mine and everything cost me less than $200.00
Post # 5
I agree with @Sassygrn: about going the fake flower route. I ordered mine from etsy.com, got exactly what I needed and a couple of things thrown in free. I got my bouquet, 4 bridesmaids bouquets, 4 groomsmen boutonnieres, 1 groom boutonniere, 4 mother/grandmother corsages, 3 father/grandfather corsages, a flower girl basket and a throwing bouquet for a little over $400. Here they are:
Post # 6
I like the idea of pocket squares for all the men. I think that would be fine and look nice!
For the mothers/Grandmothers I also like the idea of a single rose. I think that would be really pretty. My mom and MIL carried tussy mussy bouquets which are just smaller bouquets and my step mom and DHs grandmother got flower pins which are similar to bouts but more feminine
Post # 7
You can do fake flower bouts or peacock feather bouts. We are going to peacock feather route. If you really dont want them at all you can skip them altogether
Post # 8
I was going to suggest the single rose to you since it sounds like o have something you really want something.
You certainly don’t have to have anything if you don’t want it or its not in your budget! Your mom’s and g’mas might like to have something special though.
There are tons of other DIY options for you or you could consider doing your own with a simple $7 bouquet from the grocery store. September flowers like mum’s will last for a long time and look fresh if you do them a few days before. Or hypercum berries.
Oh another non-floral -Brooches?
I asked a florist at our local grocery store for quote as a price comparison and they came in under $300 for everything. Orchid Corsages were only $12 you could consider this too.
I’m not saying you have to have them at all because you don’t, I just thought from your post that you’d like them and could use some options.
Post # 9
I’m so glad to hear that I’m not the only one scrapping the bouts! I personally don’t think anyone is going to miss them! I’m actually not doing pocketsquares either, but I think it will look nice on your guys if that’s what you want to do.
I’m still undecided on corsages for the mothers. I like the idea of having something for them & the fathers (I won’t have any grandparents @ the wedding), I’m just not sure what yet. I think the idea of handing a single rose is nice, but for me personally I don’t think I’ll go that route because I’m getting married on top of a mountain & I don’t want them to have to carry it around while were doing pictures & going back down on the gondola, etc.
Keep us updated on what you end up deciding 🙂
Post # 10
@kermie: Thank you for the advice, and tip on talking to the local grocery store. I think that I will do that, and maybe a larger chain florist and see if they can accomplish something similar to what I am being quoted from private florists at a reduced cost.
I did send a poll out to my Mom and the Grooms Mom, so far the response is that they don’t care either way. 🙂
Post # 11
Our guys will be wearing pocket squares instead of bouts….so we will only buy 1 bout for grandpa!
Post # 12
We’re not doing any bouts or corsages b/c it’s not a priority for my fiance and i. I don’t know what the family thinks about it, although I’m sure his mom will have something to say:) But i mentioned it at work one day, and my really good friend at work almost had a fit. It’s so funny what people think are important.
Post # 13
The votes are all in now, my Mom likes the single rose idea, but my Granny would prefer a corsage. So then my Mom shifted her vote, saying whatever works for Granny works for me (Love the women in my family!! <3). And the FMIL, although saying she doesn’t care, did mention that the nice thing about a corsage is that it identifies you the entire night.
Unanimously they all said that the men won’t miss a flower 🙂
I think I would prefer to have all the Mom’s and Gma’s the same, so I will work with the florist on budget conscious cosage ideas.
Thanks to all the Bees for weighing in, and letting me know what you are doing. Fingers crossed we don’t break the bank! 🙂
One more question.. Is it breaking etiquette to not get a corsage for my personal attendant. I will be getting her a gift of course.