Post # 1
Hey all. I’m in the process of addressing invites. A few friends of mine share a house. I’m not very close to any of them, but they threw us an engagement party so we are inviting all three. Can I put all three of their names on one invitation? Or is it proper etiquette to send three invites to one house?
Post # 3
Well the proper etiquette is to send each person 18 and older their own invite + guest. Obviously, there’s many different brides with all different situations, so that doesn’t work for everyone.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Proper etiquette is to send one to each adult. I care less and less about what’s proper, though, and more and more about what will offend individuals. If you are fine sending only one, and are sure they won’t care, send one. If you’re inviting them with dates, though, this could be confusing.
Post # 5
They don’t get dates…we have too many people as is, unfortunately.
Post # 6
If its a group invite and they dont get dates, make it a cute group addressing a la "The lovely ladies of 123 Smith Street". Yes, Emily Post would say they each get one, but if you dont feel these women would care so much about Ms Post, go for fun.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
I like mdarrah’s idea 🙂 That way it is less obvious that they aren’t getting dates too.
Post # 8
Yeah, I had a similar situation and sent one to (not their real names) "Sarah, Mary, Jane, and all relevant gentlemen," (or something like that) as two had long term BFs and one I wasn’t sure of. But we were all college students and I hand delivered it, I dunno. I did see that they ended up putting it on their fridge, so I think an invite to each would have been unnecessary — one would have gone on the fridge and the others probably would have been either tossed or lost in the piles of paperwork college students tend to accumulate. 🙂
So I’d say just do what you think they would be comfortable with… if none are etiquette mavens or pretty-paper-hoarders, just do the one.
Post # 9
My friends have done that. It’s totally fine.
Post # 10
Proper etiquette is to send each person over 18 their own invite UNLESS they’re a couple. I would say try and think to yourself if they seem like sticklers for etiquette, or if they’d be offended. Or you could always put three invites in the envelope, to strike a compromise — or just three RSVP cards (handwrite their name on the back) in one invite.
Post # 11
if they threw you a party i would send one each. they must be somewhat invested in the event and might like their own invites as keepsakes.
Post # 12
I would send a separate invite to each person. It seems like you would only do the mass invite for children or couples.
Post # 13
I would send the invites to each individual person… they are all grownups treat them as such, especially since they threw you an engagement party.
Post # 14
I have a couple of very close friends who are roomates. They specifically asked if I would send each their own invite that way they would not argue over who actually got to keep it for rememberace purposes. So that is what I did.