- 4 years ago
I’m back on this account to vent about the same thing I was venting about last time I was on this account. I’m now engaged (yay!). “Louis” is married to “Brunhilda” and things have been civil as possible. As FI was a groomsman in Louis’ wedding, we asked him to be a groomsman for us, hoping that some sort of relationship would be establish. Well, FI hoped for some sort of relationship. I personally value even the veneer of a happy, normal family and don’t want to seem like a selfish bitch who won’t have Louis in the bridal party after he let his brother be one of his groomsmen.
My FI and I went and bought suits for the wedding today, getting a rather incredible deal. Buying suits for the weddings is normal in our circle, as long as the suits are <$200.
The drama started the other night. Louis and Brunhilda were over at FI’s parents home to clean as Thanksgiving is coming up and FI’s parents always host the turkey day festivities. I was also over, though my FI was not due to other obligations.
Sometime during the evening, some stuff went missing. Louis has a history of stealing from his family, though he has been much better in the past 2-3 years. Nobody can prove Louis stole the stuff, but he has the history, and it obviously wasn’t FI, FI’s parents, and it wasn’t me!
Now I’m sick of Louis. My FI and I paid for the suits, knowing that the other groomsmen will be happy to pay for their suits. Louis has a history of not paying for anything. My FI and I still need to talk about it, but as we know, though can’t prove that Louis has stolen from his parents (along with just generally taking advantage of them financially and emotionally).
Would it be right to tell FI that if Louis doesn’t pay for his suit in full, we’re returning it and getting a new suit for FI to have for himself and asking Louis to just attend as a guest? Or not attend at all?
I don’t believe any of Louis’ apologies anymore, and I hate watching him stomp all over the trust and feelings of those people who love him more than their own lives.
ETA: I did leave out quite a few details, but I will be happy to provide them if people ask.