Post # 1
My friend who lives in a different state asked me to be her bridesmaid. Tonight I’m seeing a bunch of mutual friends (my friend used to live here). Is it okay if I tell them I’m going to be a bridesmaid in her wedding? Or is it her “job” to tell everyone?
ETA: She has told me who the bridesmaids are (her sister, me, and another close friend)
Post # 3
I wouldn’t, leave it to her to tell them
Post # 4
I voted yes. Unless she specifically asked you not to share yet.
Post # 5
I think it would be ok if you mention it, but maybe shoot her a text first just to be sure! She might still be deciding the rest of the bridal party and you don’t want to make it awkward if one of the girls you’re seeing is disappointed she wasn’t asked.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t, only because she doesn’t live there anymore, and may not have asked everyone she wants to. I would wait until she tells you everyone who is going to be asked has been asked, and that you can tell people.
Post # 7
When I got married, I was happy my bridesmaids had told our other mutual close friends (they hadn’t asked me) because it put the awkwardness out of me telling them I was not asking them to be a bridesmaid.
Post # 8
I would wait since it just happened. You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.
Post # 9
No, not until the bride says it. She might want to personally tell people herself, especially if there’s some mutual friend who was expecting to be a bm.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t, let her do it.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t bring it up or just blurt it out but if someone asks directly about who the BM’s are or if you are one then I don’t think you should lie. If you lied about it that would make it seem even more suspicious to people.
Post # 12
if you are asked, then answer but don’t volunteer the information on your own
Post # 13
Tell if asked but leave it to the bride.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t bring it up, but if they ask I wouldn’t lie.
Post # 15
Every bride is different. The only safe course is to ask the bride if it’s ok to tell.
Post # 16
- Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo
i’d ask her first. Better safe than sorry.