Post # 1
I just graduated from college. Two of my close friends from college decided to go on a trip to Vegas. I asked one of them to be my maid of honor and one of them to be a bridesmaid.
We went out two nights in a row, and my bridesmaid decided to take off on us and leave the club with some guy that she made out with on the dance floor. My moh and I searched the club for hours and finally accepted she wasn’t there. Oh, and she has a boyfriend btw. On our way back we ran into the guy. He said he has just walked her back to our hotel. We asked her about it, and all she admitted to was the kissing, because we both saw her do it. It eventually came out that she went up to his hotel room too.
The next night we went out again. She got his number and had been texting him all day. They showed up at the same club as us again. And even though she knew we were really mad about it the night before, she disappeared with him again to “go get a drink” for an hour. We made a couple laps around the place and left. We texted her and she said she was still there. We went back for her and she said they never left. He accidentally told us they left to go see the bellagio fountains.
This is not the kind of person I want to be friends with. She cheated on her bf and didn’t even feel bad about it. Can I/ how do I unbridesmaid her?
Post # 3
I have a general philosophy that my FI is the only person whose sex life concerns me. What my friends do is up to them, and I don’t see it as interfering with our friendship.
Post # 4
Is she a good friend to YOU? Everyone goes a little wild in Vegas, and yeah it sucks that she kissed another dude, but try to remove yourself from that situation. I have several friends that make HORRIBLE partners but they’re still awesome to me. I wouldn’t use that to determine their worthiness as a bridesmaid/bridesman/friend.
Post # 5
It’s not just that she cheated… She took off with some stranger in a different country and left us worrying about her. She lied to us so many time before finally admitting to doing it. And then she apologized and went and did the same thing the next night! She was being a Sucky friend. I have only known her for two years and I feel like now I am starting to see the real her.
Post # 6
@Natalieh86: I agree, although it’s not what I would want a friend to do, it happens. I would be REALLY upset if she left me alone both times, at least you had the other friend to spend time with. Try not to get too caught up in it, your wedding is still a year away and if you do this now – you may not be able to change it again. Give it some time. What she did to her bf is something she will have to deal with, even if it’s something you don’t agree with (I don’t either). She obviously doesn’t love her bf, she is perhaps not in the same emotional mature relationship you are (engaged).