(Closed) Can I uninvite my family? (long vent)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My situation with my family isn’t as drastic but I can understand where you are coming from.  “You can’t pick your family, but you can pick your friends”… so just enjoy this special time with your friends and “new” family 😉  I would say to try not to let it get to you, but that’s easier said that done. 

I finally found out why my family wouldn’t really talk to me and it was because I am “too independent”… because, like you, my husband and I have good, stable jobs and we don’t depend on my parents for anything.  On the other hand, my older sister is the complete opposite and still depends on my parents.  So, maybe that’s why your family is getting super happy and involved with the other wedding… because they can’t with yours? 

Post # 5
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438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Do you have a wedding website?  That’s a good way to share all the details about your wedding with your family.  Maybe you could have them throw you a shower to let them feel like they’re helping 😉 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I guess I need more specifics – when you say your family, except for your dad and siblings, care more about the other wedding, who are the family members that don’t care? For example, if it’s your aunt and uncle not caring as much about yours, and their daughter or son is the one getting married…well, yeah, obviously they’re going to be most excited about their child’s. And in that same scenario, it makes sense that the parents would help if they can and want to, paying for your child’s wedding should not mean you have to help with your niece’s who is getting married also.

But if we’re talking like it’s both of your grandparents or something and they’re way more excited for theirs and helping pay and not giving a crap about yours, then yeah, I would be hurt.

Post # 8
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Mrs. Gremmlin: That does really suck, I’m sorry =(

I’m a blunt person, so I’d probably straight up tell them, “Hey I’m excited about X’s wedding too, but it hurts that the whole family is so involved in their wedding to the extent that I’m not sure anyone will even show up to mine. I’d like some excitement for me and FI too!”

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