- 4 years ago
My SIL and brother have been married for 10 years. They have always had a very rocky relationship, and only got married when she got pregnant in high school. They now have four kids (10, 9, 5, and 1).
My brother had an affair and wanted to divorce her, but she threatened to move back to her home country and take the kids so that he/we would never see them. So they’re still together.
During this time he would come over my mom’s house and he’d have black eyes and scratches all over him from her. My nieces would tell me SIL would break their toys and tvs out of anger.
SIL and I are not really that close. I was always cordial because she is the mother of my nieces/nephew, but we never really communicated outside of family get togethers. And definitely didn’t spend time alone.
My brother is in the military and will be deployed soon for 10 months. He will not be there for our wedding. My SIL is very quiet and will only be social if my brother is around.
When my brother is deployed she usually leaves my nieces with my mom for months at a time. She never pays my mom, or gives her money to cover their food/expenses. My mom never says anything because she’s too afraid of SIL.
Over the years because of how much time my nieces have spent at my mom’s house, my mom and I have grown very close to my nieces.
I often try to invite my SIL to family outings, but she always refuses, so FI and I usually take the kids out ourselves. She always seems okay with this because she likes to go out with her friends.
Ever since we got engaged my nieces have been asking when we’ll get married and saying how excited they are.
I planned on having two as my flower girls and the oldest my junior bridesmaid.
My mom told me SIL plans on having my nieces stay home for my wedding, but that she intends to go…
I honestly thought she would have stayed home and sent my nieces with my mom because this is what she always does.
What do I do? I don’t even want her there.