(Closed) Can I uninvite?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Can I get away with breaking etiquette rules in this situation?
    Yes... there's no friendship, they'll probably not even notice... : (18 votes)
    53 %
    No...still send the invite regardless : (15 votes)
    44 %
    Other (write below) : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    988 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    if they really don’t care about you they probably wont come anyway, so don’t stress too much.

    if it upsets you that you aren’t talking much, try reaching out by directly telling them that it bothers you that you haven’t spoken in so long.  they obviously are hurt that they haven’t seen you in a while either so perhaps you can work things out.

    good luck hun

    Post # 4
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    4511 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I guess the question is whether you care about patching up the relationship with them or not. If you don’t send them the invitations, it definitely sends the message that you’re done with them, and then their talking s**t about you will be somewhat justified (in the sense that you “uninvited” them to the wedding, regardless of the reason). I don’t think they’ll forget about your wedding–so they’ll definitely notice if they’re not invited. 

    If you don’t care about being friends with them anymore, and you truly are done with them, then don’t invite them–just realize the message that action will send. 

    Good luck – tricky situation!

    Post # 5
    Member
    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    sorry, but you have to invite them unless you never want to be friends again.

    Post # 6
    Member
    217 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would guess they won’t come, I mean, if they have ignored you for 8 months, why would she shell out cash to come to your wedding?  I wouldn’t be to stressed about it.  

    Post # 7
    Member
    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We’re doing a semi-destination wedding

    If these people are already upset with you and haven’t seen you in 8 months more than likely they aren’t going to travel to a semi destination wedding.  Even if a few come, I highly doubt all 10 would. 

    Post # 8
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    11327 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I just think you do whatever you want to for the outcome you hope to have. If you hope to patch things up with them and have a friendship in the future, definitely invite them to the wedding. If you don’t care if you ever see them again and have no intention of trying to be friends anymore, don’t invite them. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I sent an STD and didn’t send the invite. It may be tacky, but I was in a similar boat to you. I although knew I didn’t want to speak to them again.

    Post # 10
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    548 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    If you;re sure you don’t want to speak with them again, don’t send the invite…honestly, i wouldn’t want to invite people who are talking crap behind my back because we don’t hang out, yet they ignore all attempts to do so…I have a friend like that myself.  In my opinion they don’t deserve the money you’d have to spend on them.  In this case, I saw screw etiquette.

    Post # 10
    Member
    548 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    If you;re sure you don’t want to speak with them again, don’t send the invite…honestly, i wouldn’t want to invite people who are talking crap behind my back because we don’t hang out, yet they ignore all attempts to do so…I have a friend like that myself.  In my opinion they don’t deserve the money you’d have to spend on them.  In this case, I saw screw etiquette.

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