Post # 1
Hi hive…little etiquette question:
My FMIL is sending out invitations to a second reception in california 4 weeks after our wedding.
However, she is sending out the invitations 2 weeks before the wedding, so technically when people receivee the announcements/second reception invitation, we won’t be married yet.
Just wondering if it is proper etiquette to continue to use our separate names or if it is ok to say:
Mr and Mrs. Future-in-laws
invite you to a dinner party
to celebrate the marriage of
Fi’sname and Myname Newlastname
What do you think?
Post # 3
I have a couple questions before I can answer properly!
Do the people on the list to be invited to the second reception know about your wedding ceremony and first reception, and are they invited to it?
Post # 4
Everyone likely already knows about the wedding. But only about half of the invitees were invited to the Chicago wedding and reception.
We are actually using two different versions for these 2nd reception invites–one with a wedding announcement and reception invitation (for those that didn’t get a wedding invite), and one with just the 2nd reception invitation. (for those that did get a wedding invite)
Post # 5
I would include your maiden name on the invitation, if only to avoid confusion. Not everyone is going to put two-and-two together, especially if they know only you. So they may be stuck wondering, who is Latte NewName? I think for events surrounding the marriage, you should go by your maiden name because that’s the name you married under. 🙂
Post # 6
I would assume that the people getting these invitations to the 2nd reception/dinner are friends/family of your FI… right? I don’t think they would be confused, especially if your FMIL is sending the invitation.
I do think, however, that you should put your maiden name on these, since you will not be married when they get them.