(Closed) Can I vent for a minute?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2006 posts
Buzzing bee

Vent away girl. No judgement here 🙂

Post # 4
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1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh sweetie, let me guess – oldest child?  I totally understand.  Parents are so much harder on the oldest.  You have every right to be irked. 

Honestly, being an adult, you should do what you want to do with your FI.  If you want to move in together, do it! 

Also, your situation sounds so similar to mine with my younger sibling and my parents.  I think part of the reason now that my parents are so much easier on him is because they know I am so much more responsible than he is so they are much more willing to let him get away with things like that.

HUGS!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I had a moment just like this not even two weeks ago. BF and I have been very responsible and waiting until we both have steady jobs and our own place to have children. My 19 year old sister just went and got herself knocked up. It was like a slap in the face. I totally know how you feel right now. The only way I got over the disappointment was to talk it out with the family.

Post # 6
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2006 posts
Buzzing bee

@Mrs. Louboutin: hey us youngest children can get the wrong end of the stick too Wink

Post # 7
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5390 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Wow! That does suck. Think of it this way, you and your FH are going to start off in your OWN home without the help of your parents.While your sister is still depending on them.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@babyboo: I agree. Me and FH are the youngest and we have to live like saints and not make the same mistakes that our older siblings made. Our parents act like we are their only hope.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@babyboo: Said like a true youngest child 🙂  Just kidding

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It is pretty rough but moreso because nobody can really stand sister’s BF. My consolation was that she agreed not to get married first 😛 (We were planning a wedding for next fall anyway.)

Post # 13
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505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I know exactly how you feel…except this is happening with my BF.  His parents refinance their house and loan buy his younger brother everything.  BF younger brother still lives at home, got in trouble with the law (so much that he went to jail for a year), still hasn’t learned his lesson.  Was told a few months ago that they probably won’t be able to do the hawaiian cruise next year…you know the cruise that BF & I are planning on getting married.  They had “loaned” him the money for a 4-wheeler-that he can’t drive anywhere bc he lost his license for 3 years.  He didn’t have any money saved up because he didnt work for a year and first thing he bought out of jail was a motorcycle.  Yes the kid without a license has a motorcycle and 4-wheeler that sit outside.

They never buy BF anything and he never, ever expects them to buy him anything.  We told them for the past 2 years not to buy us anything for b-day & Christmas presents & to save their money for the cruise, but they have to put all that money towards supporting younger brother…

 

Girl I feel your pain!

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ll say this isn’t always how it works so I don’t get flamed… BUT

This is totally typical first born syndrome.  It always seems like we get it way harder than our siblings.  I worked my A$$ off to work full time and graduate university and be gainfullly employed by the time I was 21, and bought my own condo at 23, and my parents acted like it was the least they would expect.

My little sister hung out at the beach all day, while living at home for free then did a random year of schooling, and then took off to travel the world, and has finally decided to maybe enroll in a teaching degree at the age of 24, and my parents are jumping with joy and trying to figure out how they can foot the bill.

Vent away!  We’re so hard done by 🙂

Post # 15
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Helper bee

Hah!  @SapphireSun, I think you’re onto something there.

 

I’m first born and I studied hard at school, went to uni, got a good job.  I had to leave home when I was 16 and get a job, because my younger sister went off the rails and kept robbing me.  She would beat mum up for money and mum would give it to her. I just couldn’t live there anymore.

Fast forward 15 years… mum is still bailing out my sister with $$.  She worked extra jobs to pay sisters rent and bought her car, appliances etc, everything.  still pays her phone bills.  I’m talking about a 30 year old woman with a full-time job still getting hand outs to help cover her rent because she keeps boozing.  If she asks you for something and you say no she will refuse to talk to you (or her nephews/neices) for months and months and swear her face off at you.

I once asked to borrow $120 when i was 19 because I was off sick from work and couldn’t pay my rent.  I got screamed at and told that “i’m not a bank, you think you can take advantage of me!”.  I’ve never asked for a cent since, I even lived in my car so i woudn’t have to.

And the wrost thing is, my sister can do “no wrong”. She’s some freaken golden child (30!!) and so successful.  All because she works as a manager in a store now and dropped out of school at 13.  Wow, how proud is everyone.

It’s gotta be a younger sister/sibling thing!!!

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