Post # 1
& I don’t for one second feel bad that I’m about to have a bridezilla moment here. (as those occassions rarely happen).
So I sent my invites out three days ago (last Saturday) and the first wave of guests are starting to receive theirs in the mail.
I included good old fashioned mail-back RSVP cards that specifically said “WE HAVE _#_ SEATS RESERVED IN YOUR HONOR” with spaces that followed showing a space where they need to include names and a meal choice for each guest.
Can anyone please tell me why I’ve had at least three guests write on my facebook wall tonight that “We are coming! and we’re bringing _______, ________, _________, _________, ___________, oh and my sister just moved into town and we’re helping her out and her two kids who will also be attending.”
– guest #1 had 2 seats reserved on their RSVP card and is now inviting an additional 4 people. do I know them? NO!
– guest #2 had 2 seats reserved and is now bringing another two because their friends from out of state will be visiting them during that time. do I know them? of course not
– and “guest #3” is the real winner because she wasn’t even invited! technically, she is a family member … extremely distant, as in, the last time we saw each other was when we were 3? no keeping in touch, no nothing. she even lives in a different country … she heard about my wedding from another family member and has not only invited herself but her husband, her daughter, and her mother in law.
ARE YOU SERIOUS?!
I don’t mean to be cold or come off as mean but SERIOUSLY! Dinner alone is costing nearly $100/person and while I would LOOOOOVE to invite and party with every single person my fiance and I have ever met in our lives, we just can’t afford it.
Why don’t these people get it? This isn’t just a regular party where you can get your friends and I’ll get my friends and we’ll all just wing it when the food runs out …
Post # 3
This isn’t a bridezilla moment this is a sane moment. These people are straight crazy! Who does this!?!?!
Post # 5
LOL I told people that additional guests cost $100 per head and that cash/checks were fine.
Post # 6
AWESOME!!!!!! I WISH i had included that in my invitation! lol!!!!!!!!!
Post # 7
Post # 8
This is what happens when people think that the “rules” of weddings aren’t important anymore. Etiquette is always important.
Post # 9
Well I had a lot of people getting around who was invited by “bringing them” when I told my DH’s family who were inviting +6’s that they would be charged accordingly we ended up with significant drops in our RSVP numbers.
Post # 10
just tell people not to come. how rude are they to take it upon themselves to invite whomever they want to invite. just plain crazy.
I’m serious about it…. the distant relative, have one of your parents deal with, the others explain you don’t have room for extra guests and that if they can’t come alone, then you’re sorry they can’t celebrate with you.
Post # 11
NOT bridezilla!! that’s INSANE!!!! I cannot believe *actually I can* people do this! At least they’re giving a heads up… FI’s family would just show up with people. 30% of our engagement party neither one of us knew them!!! Friends brought their distant family to our e-party!! SO STRANGE!!!!
Post # 12
yes, i am FUMING! these people do NOT want to hear directly from me. i guess the b***h inside my sister/moh will be useful afterall! lol
Post # 13
Ahhhh….this makes me nervous for when I send out my invites. That is so so so rude!!!!
Post # 14
What the heck is wrong with people! Call them and say that you have limited seating and like the invitation says, you only have # seats available to them. The distant relative who wasn’t even invited is a tough one though, not sure how to even begin with that one…seriously, how ridiculous can these people get?!
Post # 15
I honestly don’t understand why people don’t understand that you can’t bring extra people to a WEDDING. I wouldn’t bring extra people if I was invited to my friend’s house for appetizers & drinks, nevermind a flipping wedding. WTF?
Post # 16
Wow. Tell them no! This is ridiculous.