Post # 1
My intended and I are attending a wedding in two weeks and I can’t decide whether the lovely dress I’d like to wear is appropriate. It has a cream-colored top and a black skirt. I’m not at all worried about the style, but I am concerned about the color.
I’ve heard that you never wear white to a wedding, but my mother told me that cream on top is fine. Additionally, I wouldn’t be put out if someone wore the dress to my wedding. However, the bride is one of my intended’s friends, not mine, and I don’t want to offend her!
What do you think? Is wearing cream to a wedding ever appropriate?
Post # 3
I think it’s fine because the bottom half is black – if the whole dress were “cream” it might be a little iffy.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I think it depends on how much white it is. If it’s just a little, then I don’t think it’s a huge deal. I think it really only crosses a line when there is a lot of white in it.
That being said, I try to avoid white at all when I’m going to weddings, just because you never know how sensitive a bride is going to be to that sort of thing!
Post # 5
I would check with the bride on this one. If it was my wedding, it wouldn’t bother me, but it might bother another bride.
Post # 6
I recently wore a dress to a wedding that was cream on top and black on the bottom.It was a short dress and I certainly did not stand out. I think you should be fine.
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s a big deal.
Post # 8
I think it’s ok, plus, you have a black skirt.
Post # 9
IMO white/ivory/cream are off limits for weddings. The bride should be the only one wearing that color. Again, that is only my opinion.
As a bride to be, I probably would not be offended if someone were to wear white/ivory/cream since I can’t control what people wear and people are allowed to have their own opinions about such etiquette guidelines.
I also do not wear red. That is an old school rule: if you wear red you are the mistress 😉
Post # 10
Since there is black on the bottom, I don’t think this is a problem at all.
Post # 11
NEVER ask the bride! That’s a horrible position to put her in. If she does care she’ll feel bad telling you no and then be mad she said yes! lol
I say, NO white/ivory/cream whatever… period. If you have to question it, it’s a no go.
Post # 12
Is it actually cream or is it “off white”/”ivory”? I always think of cream as having more yellow undertones so I feel that would be acceptable. Another thing to consider is, what color is the bride’s dress? My wedding dress is cream, so I wouldn’t like it if someone wore cream to my wedding.
Post # 13
Do you have a pic of the dress? This one by bcbg comes to mind when I read your description. I think it’s totally cute and wedding-appropriate!
Post # 14
I think that since you have other colors in the dress (with the black skirt) it is fine, but obviously some of the folks on here feel differently. I think asking the bride is fine (if you’re close to her), as long as you don’t force her hand. (“I have this dress I was thinking about wearing, but the top is cream. I have something else I could wear if you’d prefer…”)
Post # 15
I’m with KLP2010 – If you’re worried about whether it’s appropriate, just find something else to wear. Personally, it wouldn’t bother me if someone wore a dress like you’ve described; but why take the chance?
Post # 16
I was going to say the same thing as some of the other posters. If you are asking about it then just don’t wear it. We may say “Oh it should be fine” or “well if you wore that at my wedding, I wouldn’t care”. But the thing is, it’s just our opinions. It has nothing to do with what the bride will actually think. I personally wouldn’t care either if someone wore something like that to my wedding. But it could potentially irritate the bride. Plus, it will just give you an accuse to buy a new dress!