Can I wear this dress to a wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Can I wear this to a wedding
    Yes - as you explained! : (106 votes)
    89 %
    Yes - with other accessories! (please explain below) : (5 votes)
    4 %
    No! : (8 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 4
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    9532 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’d say it depends on the couple. I’m from the south and my grandmother would kill me if I wore a red dress to a wedding. It’s considered attendtion grabbing and some people say it means you think the bride is a woman of loose morals. I, personally, think that’s bull honkey, but wouldn’t wear red just because I know some people don’t think it’s appropriate. But I think that may be more of a southern thing -s o you’re probably okay. All that being said, I would have had no problem what-so-ever if someone had worn that to my wedding. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    2828 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think it’s fine. I read recently (here on the Bee, of all places) that it’s not nice to wear red to a wedding, but I’d never heard that before and would be delighted if someone wore that dress to my wedding.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    Yes. 🙂 I’ve never heard about the red color rule, though. I knew about the white one, but I thought every other colors were okay. I’ve always seen people wearing very colorful clothing in weddings. The things I find the most inappropriate are not related to colors though, but to clothing itself. I mean, showing up in shorts or sandals (men) when it’s not a beach wedding, or not dressing up (jeans), or women wearing ultra-sexy dresses that would fit better in a nightclub than in a formal (elegant) event … but color-wise, I think pretty much all colors are appropriate. 🙂

    Post # 10
    Member
    3199 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @MrsBaldEagle:  i think its lovely. and i think the no red rule is ABSURD. NO ONE is going to pay attention to someone just because they’re wearing red and take attention off the bride. silliness.

    unless i guess it was a more casual wedding and someone came in wearing a red ballgown. that might take some attention off the bride. lol!

    Post # 11
    Member
    2696 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Looks fine to me!

    Post # 12
    Member
    5207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I only voted no because of the “no red” rule. You know the couple though, what do you think they would approve of?

    Post # 13
    Member
    3756 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I think it is great! Go for it! I just wore a red dress to a wedding and got quite a few compliments on it, but it wasn’t in any way attention grabby or taking away from the bride!

    Post # 14
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    7282 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Looks fine to me, where is that dress from BTW i’m looking for a wrap dress and that loosks pretty fab. 

    Who came up with the no red rule anyway? 

    Post # 15
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    6890 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Miss Manners says no to red, black or white.  I think the Post Institute says guests should not wear anything too flashy, bright or distracting although they are fine with white (!) as long as it’s not bridal looking and black. As a host or bride this dress on a guest wouldn’t bother me at all, personally. But as a guest I would probably wear something else, just to avoid any chance of offending.

    Post # 16
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    2400 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I think it’s a nice dress & would look very jazzy with the accessories you explained. I’m also southern raised & have been told to never wear the following to a wedding: 

    -black because then you are mourning the union or disapproving

    -white because then you are trying to take attention away from the bride

    -BM color because then you are trying to be a bridesmaid 

    -red because then you are trying to attract the attention of the groom

    There’s only so many colors- so I say screw those rules & wear that red pretty (I would def. sway the other direction if this dress was super short or tight but my general rule is that if it’s work appropriate it’s wedding appropriate unless a very formal wedding)

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