Post # 1
So, we attended a wedding fair last week, and we won a pair of rings! We just have to pay like $20ish in shipping, and we will probably pay another $40 to get engraving. The rings we can choose from are all nice tungsten and we will definately be getting my FI’s ring from this. My e-ring is a little difficult to match up, so we will go somewhere else for mine. No idea where, yet. We promptly went to a jewelry store and I got him to try on a bunch of tungsten rings, and he thought they were okay but… thick.
My FI has declared that he hates thick rings. I dunno, ’cause I think they look kind of manly and nice, but he refuses to get one. The thing is, as far as I can tell, all tungsten rings for guys are a little on the thick side. But, he does like the ones meant for women. Of the rings our coupon applies to, the guy rings are usually around 8mm thick, and the women ones are mostly the -exact same design-, but more like 4mm thick. He has decided that he wants a women’s ring. He claims that the thinner band just looks better to him, and a ring even slightly too big feels bad on his hand and annoys him. There are three styles that he is between and we are going to return to the jewelry store so he can try the different kinds on, but I think I know which one he will pick.
Sooo, do you ladies think we can get away with this? This is the guy ring:
And this is the women’s ring:
Do you think anybody will know or care? Would you know? We’re probably going to do it anyway, but I am wondering if people would notice/care at all. Thank you for your opinion! Also, is your ring white gold and your FI’s black like this? Does that look odd?
Post # 3
Oh gosh – absolutely. I say buy it!
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Post # 5
No one will at all! Personall, I think 4mm looks better on some men anyhow.
Post # 6
IMO the 8mm was just too thick for my guy. We settled on a 6 but I think 4 will work out great. They are really nice rings.
Post # 7
When they’re not next to each other you won’t be able to tell at all, you can definitely get away with it.
FI hasn’t definitely picked his ring yet but he likes the black ones. Mine’s white gold and it looks fine, in my opinion. FI and I were pretty lenient on the rings though, as long as we like our own ring we’re both happy 🙂
Post # 8
As long as he’s not getting a 2mm band, I doubt anyone would notice the thickness and that it was a “woman’s” ring. A lot of people who aren’t used to wearing rings say they feel odd at first, but then they get used to them. So, a thicker ring IS something he would adjust to, if you decided to go that route.
I do think having a white gold ring and his being dark tungsten would look strange…to me, it’s reminds me of that episode of “House” where he figured out the “old, married couple” were not actually married to each other because of the fact that their wedding bands were not the color gold.
BUT that is my personal opinion. The only opinion that really matters in this is yours and your FIs.
Post # 9
im another one saying go for it – one of the reasons my hubby was asking me 5mins after we married if he could take his ring off was because he said it was hurting him (not tight, just didnt like the fit) so if he will be happier with the thinner band then do it
and congrats on the win
Post # 10
I think DH’s ring is about 4mm. It is not thick at all. The more important question is how does it look on him? If he has huge hands then it might look out of place, but if he has normal/smallish hands it should look fine.
Post # 11
Thank you, bees! It’s possible I am just having a bride brain moment and over thinking it. I feel very reassured now, though! Yay! I am so very excited to order his ring. 🙂 He usually hates jewelry, but I think I will have to hide it from him when we get it to prevent him from wearing it early.
@Miss Apricot: Oh, that House. He’s very Sherlock like that.
Post # 12
Bf has a 2mm titanium band for his ering. His wedding band will probably be 4 mm and look exactly the same as his ering. He’s not wearing the ering yet but he picked it (and the future band) out and I don’t think anyone would make fun of him for having a thin band–he has long, thin fingers and a big thick band would probably look ridiculous. My dad’s wedding band is probably 4-6 mm and it looks just fine and he has short stubby fingers*.
It’s just like with us girls–you like what you like and you have to try stuff on to figure it out. What other people think doesn’t really matter. But for the record, I don’t think that anyone would think that his band was girly or feminine.
*My dad’s pinky is thicker than my thumb but our palms and finger lengths are the same. My hands are about average for my height and build.
Post # 13
The super thick men’s band is kind of a newer thing. Look at wedding bands on men who are a bit older, say 40-60. A LOT of them are quite thin. Think of it as more of a retro/vintage look!
Definitely, definitely go for it, if that’s what he wants.
Post # 14
I definitely say go for it!
Post # 15
I love it! My FI’s wedding band isn’t very thick either =)
Post # 16
I think he can definitely get away with it. I doubt anyone will notice it all. I see all kind of men’s bands and some are thick and some pretty thin.