(Closed) Can my groom rock a black tux with tail, while the groomsmen wear grey suits??

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Can the groom where a black tux with tail, while the groomsmen and bridesmaids wear grey?
    yes : (17 votes)
    33 %
    no : (29 votes)
    56 %
    meh.....maybe.... (please explain in comments) : (6 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    2385 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’m of the opinion that it’s your wedding, do what you want!

    Post # 4
    14498 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Are the groomsmen wearing tails?  If so, then yes he would look great.  If not, forgo the tails and go with a nice reg black tux.

    Post # 5
    3689 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    If the groomsmen don’t match the groom in terms of formality, he’s going to look funny in the tails.  Can you get them gray tuxes with tails?

    Post # 6
    23636 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Ooh gray tuxes with tails! sound cool.  But probably not tails on your groom (unless he’s dying to do so, then i say why not?)

    Post # 10
    382 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    It is your wedding so you can do what you want, however, I feel that if just the groom is in a tux with tails, it will look odd. I understand you want to have the groom stand out, but if you’re not going completely formal, why do a tux for him if the other guys aren’t also in tuxes? And why black if you’re not a fan of black?

    I want to stand out from my groomsmen, so I’m having them all wear darker grey suits while I wear a really really light grey suit that not only sets me apart from them, but also gets me closer to the white-ish of my FI’s dress, making the two of us stand out as a couple.

    We’re also having the bridesmaids in greens with the groomsmen having green ties to match. In order to stand out from that, I’ll be wearing a sky blue tie to match a sky blue sash on her dress.

    So there are other ways to have your groom stand out from his groomsmen without the appearance being so jarring. Look into different colored jackets, ties, vests, etc.

    Post # 11
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    You can do whatever you want. Those are two different formalities though so some people will think it looks odd, but no one will say anything to you. Try on both looks side by side to see how it is.

    Post # 12
    5170 posts
    Bee Keeper

    You can do whatever you want but my vote is ‘No’. Tails are a much different formality than a reg tux, dark suit or light suit. I would think it would be better to keep the formality and dresscode pretty cohesive

    Post # 13
    46256 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If your goal is to have the groom stand out, he can certainly wear black and the groomsmen wear grey, but I would keep the degree of formality the same.

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    You could also have all the men in grey- just a different shade for the groom 


    Post # 15
    382 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Waitaminute. This is what you and your groom want but you’re not doing it for your family? No, those pictures look great. You should totally do what you want for clothes. It’s outdoors in June? People are probably going to thank you for not making them wear full tuxes. But you should do what you want. It’s good to compromise on some things, but you’re not asking for anything crazy. Just go shopping for a bunch of vests. They can’t be too hard to find and will probably cost less than suits/tuxes anyway. Have you shown your family these outdoor/vest pictures? They really look fantastic.

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