(Closed) can names be ‘taken’?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy bee

I think that if you’re not pregnant, you cant really hold a name hostage. It wouldnt be fair to that person or to you because you’re not that close to even using that name. But if you are pregnant than anyone who is closer than a good friend shouldnt use that same name for their future children…IMO

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ugh, I don’t get this. My SIL has been “calling dibs” on names her whole life… but there’s no baby coming any time soon, so I don’t think that any names should be “off limits”…. DH’s cousin had her second baby a year ago and named her “Isabella” and it was all anyone talked about, how she STOLE SIL’s baby name! How could she name her daughter “Isabella,” that was SIL’s baby’s name! Aunts, other cousins, even my MIL were in on this conversation… Give me a break. Names can be off limits if you’re pregnant, but years in advance of even TTC? Please. I know I sound like a brat here, but it’s a sensitive topic! I mean no disrespect!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

in this case, what i do is say ‘oh thats what we were thinking of using also! isn’t it so cute!?!” or something to that affect….then i leave it up to them to see if they will still use it or not…if they do fine by me, i’ll just pick a diff name cuz i’m not pregnant yet anyways, if they dont great, now its still an option… but for me, its a way to just get it out there that without saying ‘dude, u cant use that name cuz i am!’ lol  thats just how i handle it though….to each their own πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Worker bee

I guess I don’t have an opinion on if it’s “right” to do, but I totally feel you – we have names picked out (with no baby in the near future), and I am always so nervous when people get pregnant.

But you know what? If they did use a name I really loved, I can’t promise I wouldn’t also use it – and no one says you can’t! πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Honestly – I think you can use whatever name you what, whenever you want.  It doesn’t matter what other people close to you have chosen to name their children – IMO, that should have no bearing on what possible names you and your DH could use.

Personally, I wouldn’t use the same name that one of mine or DH’s siblings have previously used (ie. my kids and their cousins won’t have the same names) but I wouldn’t have any problem if someone else didn’t follow this.  It’s just a personal preference for me.  But friends, extended family, neighbors, etc – none of their children’s names would be “off-limits” for me.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@cheeseburger – would you complain and talk behind their backs about “stealing” the name from you? I think that it’s perfectly fine to have ideas of names, and be disappointed if someone else chooses it, sure! But what I get upset about is the people who are so ‘disappointed’ that they start to be hostile toward the person who used “their” name.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I wouldn’t share the name. My DH and I have tentatively picked out some names and we are not TTC right now but I am just not going to tell anyone the baby’s name until he/she is born. But if someone decided to name our child the name that we were thinking of then I don’t think there is anything we could do. And if they aren’t that close to you then you can use the same name too.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I don’t think it’s ever “wrong”.  However, I would avoid duplicating names if it would create confusion.  I wouldn’t name a child of mine the same name as my siblings or best friends children.  I figure they will spend a lot of time with their cousins and with my best friend’s kids.  If there are two kids with the same name around the same age, it could cause confusion.  Other than those two situations, I don’t think it’s a problem!

Post # 14
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Busy bee

I think you can use duplicate names as long as you absolutely love the name, then it wouldnt matter if people chose it or not.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

DH has this joke that his BFF stole the name he’s always wanted to name a son. πŸ˜› i think for family and friends that are close to us, we would never duplicate a name… especially if they’re close in age… however, if it’s distant friends, i would def consider it – depending on how much i was in love with the name πŸ™‚

i agree that i dont think it’s fair to grab “dibs” on a name, esp when you arent planning on having kids for a while. i’m in the same boat, we won’t TTC for at least a few years…. so i’m trying to stay away from baby name books and threads πŸ˜› and go figure – i’m sure we’ll end up changing our minds about what names we like/don’t like in the next few years anyway!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@dorsay, RIGHT?!?!?! It’s ludacris. That stuff bugs me. As far as not using a name because someone else has it, I agree with previous posters – as long as it’s not my sibling’s kid or something, I would still use the name. I’ve always found ‘Natalie Marie’ to be a nice girl’s name, and it’s my mom’s cousin’s name. And for a boy, I like ‘Tyler Andrew’

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