Post # 1
So, I’m marrying my scientist, atheist, humanist, culturally-Jewish man in a year. He still considers himself culturally Jewish (somewhat), but definitely not religiously. His parents are VERY much Jewish, even though they only attend temple for the holidays.
I was raised Unitarian. In otherwords–as religiously accepting as it’s possible to be. I believe in God, while my fiancee does not. I also know that I will be one one keeping the Jewish holidays in our own home with our children (when we have them). I find the faith beautiful and satisfying in many ways, and very much want to include parts of the Jewish ceremony in our wedding–both because I think it’s a wonderful way to include God and because I want to show his family that I’m happy to be included in some part of their faith and tradition.
So. We’re going to be doing the 7 wedding blessings as part of our ceremony. The division of the 7 are as follows: all 3 of our sets of parents (his are divorced), his siblings, my siblings, his uncle, and then the final (long) blessing read by all extended family. So…some of these people are obviously not Jewish. We’re having an interfaith ceremony with tons of other different types of readings, but this is the most special and spiritual to me, and I would love BOTH of our families to be a part of it.
Is this okay? Or will his Jewish family be upset? I know I can ask them, too, but I’d rather know what a few other people think before I bring up the issue with them.
Post # 3
I am also having an interfaith wedding ceremony and it is okay to have the 7 blessings read by non-Jewish people.
Post # 4
Maybe the rabbi has some experience with this one? If the rabbi was ok with it, I could see that melting away any concerns from the family…
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2018 - Hotel Vitale
Ask you officiant. We are having an interfaith wedding as well, and our Rabbi is fine with it. In fact, most of the people doing the 7 blessings for us aren’t Jewish, and the people signing our Ketubah aren’t jewish either.
Post # 6
I’m also having an interfaith ceremony and had originally hoped that my aunt could co-officiate. The Temple rules forbid it, but our rabbi is working hard to find important places to include her with out actually calling her an "officiant." She suggested that the Seven blessings were one perfect opportunity to include my aunt, and to give her something very important to do.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2018 - Ritz Carlton, Marina Del Rey
We had 14 people for our bracha — 7 read the blessings in Hebrew, and 7 in English; most of the people who read in English were not Jewish. But you should ask your rabbi; ours not only okayed it, she welcomed it as a way of integrating our non-Jewish friends and family into our ceremony.
Post # 8
We had an interfaith wedding (Jewish/Catholic) and used http://www.interfaithfamily.com. They have wonderful wedding resources to help with everything from finding a rabbi to officiate to creating an inclusive ceremony. They also have suggestions for the 7 blessings where anyone can say them. Good luck!
Post # 9
I second most of the opinions above– if your rabbi approves, it’s probably OK. It usually depends on his or her’s denomination (Orthodox & some Conservative rabbis won’t allow for it, but then again, they won’t perform at interfaith ceremonies most of the time). Good luck!