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My FI and I are getting married in Oct of this year. We have both been married before and have children from our other marriages that will, of course, be a part of the big day. I have 3 kids, a son who is 13 and 2 girls who are 9 and 7. The 7 year old is very much a mommy’s girl and copies everything I do. I know a lot of brides do the mini bride thing but I want to stand out on my wedding day. I made my dress and it is a knock off of the Lazaro LZ3108 with peach fabric to look like the sherbet color. (ETA: I left the part of what I was trying to convince her of. I am trying to convince her that our dresses should not be the same color or match me exactly). I am considering making my girls similar to pacify her. I am just wonder, would it be too matchy matchy if we all just wore the same color?
One other thing I should add, if her dress looks just like mine, I have to make the 9 year olds the same. You know typical middle child, sibling rivalry stuff.
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@MrsBrown13: I’m confused by your post title. What are you trying to convince your 7 year old to do (and why is she refusing)?
Post # 4
You can’t reason with a 7-year-old. They don’t know how to fully reason yet. Logic doesn’t matter. Give her a few choices of dresses and let her pick. Or let her be mini-bride. Either one is fine. But give up the notion of reasoning with her because that’s just not how 7-year-old minds work.
PS if she (or both girls even) wear mini-bride outfits, you will still stand out. They will get attention no matter what they wear, because little girls all dressed up are really cute and get attention. But they’re not going to overshadow the bride. So the whole “I don’t want to do the mini-bride thing because I want to stand out” is kind of a silly argument. If you don’t like that look, fine, don’t do it, but don’t be afraid that you won’t stand out if you do!
Post # 5
Why not let them each pick out their own dress in the same color family? Peach/coral is still very popular this spring, I’m sure their could both find something they love and feel good in.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
@MrsBrown13: “but I want to stand out on my wedding day.”
Pretty sure this won’t be an issue even if the 7 year old wears the exact same dress in mini-form.
Post # 7
I don’t know if I’d think it was adorable, or if I’d think it was weird and kind of weird and maybe disturbing to see your daughter dressed up like you at your wedding. So, since I’m on the fence between those two reactions, there will likely be people having each of them. I lean towards telling her no. Or, not so much telling her no, as telling her “here is your dress for the wedding” since she’s 7 and you buy all her clothes anyway.
If she likes clothes shopping, I guess take her to look at dresses but, like you always do, select options you’re happy with to present to her. You know, the same way you make sure she doesn’t see the Porn Star t-shirts, in case the big shiny gold star is pretty to the 7 year old who doesn’t know what porn is 😛
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Post # 9
Thank you all for the input!
@fishbone: Actually, it depends on the 7 year old, since I have been through having 7 year olds twice I am pretty good with the negotiations.
We found this and they love it! My sash is not exactly like the sash on this or the Lazaro but if Imake theirs it will be like mine anyway. And they have decided they want pink dresses. So it will not match exactly.
Post # 10
@MrsBrown13: that dress is gorgeous:)))
if they wear pink I think it will look perfect with your dress:))