(Closed) Can physical attraction come… later???

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
4429 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@chicagoworkinggirl:  it did for me and my FH at first i felt like he was too tall for me im 5″2 and hes 6″0 foot tall i had never dated someone so tall but over time i loved it ; ) and it does not matter were perfect for each other and that all that matters in the end. i would give him a shot and feed the boy lol

Post # 4
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah. I have found that people sort of grow on me, forgive the pun.  I would give it a shot for a little. But if not attracted after a few more dates then it probably won’t happen. I did end up really loving a very small guy. 


Post # 5
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yah, my Fiance wasn’t my type at all.  I like big guys, usually with dark hair and dark eyes.  He’s pretty small, not tiny, but small, blonde, and blue eyed.  But now he’s just the cutest thing to me. 

He’ll get bigger over time and he’s at least taller than you too.

Post # 6
2780 posts
Sugar bee

@chicagoworkinggirl:  I  honestly have never been able to get past a guy being short. Call me shallow but I can’t help it.


Post # 7
1846 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


I’m 5’4″ and was 140 lbs, my fi is 5’6″ and was 130. He was SO skinny, it was painful to look at!!

i wasn’t attracted to him physically at all. I liked taller guys, bigger guys, etc..he was not my type at all. 

But we became BEST friends, I loved him so much but never once thought of him romantically or sexually. Until I did πŸ™‚ it just happened one day, something just flipped. It wasn’t forced, it just happened. 

Whats funny is that now I look at my fi (who now weighs 150, thanks to my cooking) and I just think he’s the most attractive man. I love everything about him, and I can’t even remember not looking atthin and thinking he was cute πŸ™‚

Post # 8
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have a mental block against being with a guy who weighs less than me!  I just couldn’t do it.

Post # 9
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Physical Attraction for me is one of those MUST HAVE things… pretty early on

But I’ve also found that most times that comes naturally just from being interested in the guy.

On the other hand, I can say that falling in love with someone can take time…

When I met Mr TTR I found him attractive, but my mind wasn’t in the dating game.

He liked me pretty quick.  And he pursued me.  Lol, I guess you could say he grew on me… because I FELL for him over time

All that wonderful charm, great personality, all around nice guy… and oh ya he wasn’t bad looking as I say…

It wore me down…

πŸ˜‰ *wink*

I FELL HARD when it happened.


Post # 10
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it can, but I wouldnt rely/bet on it.

The more pressure you feel to change the way you feel physically towards him, the less likely it is to happen. It has to happen organically.

Post # 11
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Everyone is different.

For me personally yes. But we also started dating really young (14/15 years old). We were best friends and still are over 7 years later. He’s only maybe an inch taller than me, and skinnier. At times it makes me uncomfortable, like pictures since I’m worried it makes me look bigger. But I think about it maybe 2% of our time together. His personality, heart, and our emotional connection is way more important to me. And it doesn’t mean I don’t find him attractive now. πŸ™‚

Post # 12
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@chicagoworkinggirl:  I’ve never been one to intially have the physical attraction toward a guy, I normally got hooked by their personality. With my Fiance it did come, not too far along but I would occasionally catch a quick glance that would just make me melt. I dated him and I will say in the beginning that he did have a baby face still but over the years I keep seeing him more and more as the man that I saw in the start of us dating. I catch him at that angle or just  randomly in the house and I still get a little rush of butterflies

Post # 13
2861 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@chicagoworkinggirl:  If he is in your age range, he’ll probably put on weight as he gets older. I’ve been with a guy who weighs less than me too (he had an eating disorder). I don’t like it.

Post # 14
1541 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I like those skinny boys! My SO is about 2 inches taller than me 5’10ish and around 145 lbs. when we first started dating we were both around 135. since, I’ve lost 10 lbs and he’s gained 10 lbs so I feel better about that part lol.

Post # 15
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think so, what attracts me first is personality. Looks fade, people gain/lose weight, hair, teeth, mobility etc but i feel if you have that spark based on compatibility and love those things don’t matter. That’s just how I feel for myself, for some I know physical attraction needs to come first and that’s fine too. 

Post # 16
2132 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I suppose it depends. I do not have a set physical type, just basic requirements. For example, he has to be cute he has to be taller than me, not obese, etc. So, I don’t care about certain things. I would take a bony guy any day over an obese man… But, physical attractiveness is important. This usually happens on its own. I would not force it, if it is not there…

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