Post # 1
Obviously 19-20 and younger is young. But happens when you get to the 23’s-26? is that still considered young? Or is being young tied to one’s degree status? Does graduating from college and going to grad school or going right into the work-force absolve one from being “young”?
Maybe 25 is the cut-off for a more “appropriate’ age to wed?
Not being snarky but really interested in how people are defining young cause I’ve read posts that say that 20-29 should be used for finding oneself before marriage; but 27-29 cant’ possibly be young.
Post # 3
I think it depends somewhat on where you live as to how you see what is too young…My brother got married last year at the age of 25 and I considered that YOUNG..he lives in Florida. I live in NYC and I am getting married next year at age 33….I feel like people could consider me old but in NYC its really just average – most of my friends and people I know don’t get married in their mid twenties…something about city living …
Post # 4
Ooh, good question! I think 23 and younger is “young” for a bride. I’m 23 and have only just started getting to a point where my friends are getting engaged and married and it’s not quite as much of a “OMG you’re getting MARRIED?!” reaction as opposed to a “Yay! Congratulations” reaction. I’m certainly happy for younger brides than myself and know quite a few brides or wives that are younger than me (or got married younger than me and are now in very happy marriages) but yeah, I think my personal “cut-off point” is 23.
Also, I’d just like to point out that I never went to university or college. I started working professionally when I was 18 in the career I still have now. I don’t think how long you’ve been working or if you’re still a student makes any difference to being classified as a young bride.
I think, as it’s been said in other posts, that some of the social acceptance comes from how long the couple has dated – so a 21 year old bride who’s been dating someone for 5 years is more acceptable than a 21 year old bride who’s been dating someone for 5 months. Then again maturity is a different thing for every person so who are we to judge, really?
Post # 5
Not a bad question. I don’t know if I consider my FI and I “young” although perhaps we are, or at least, I am. At 23 I am a college graduate and career oriented and have been for 2 years. so… needless to say I feel like I’m pretty much living a very adult lifestyle. I am financially independent, I live away from home in the apartment FI and I share, we have a dog— so lots of responsibilities.
I’m not sure… Perhaps its different for everyone? For me I stopped feeling like a “young” woman once the responsibilities were piled on, but I’m sure there are Bees who still live at home and are financially dependent but who feel like they are grown enough to start considering marriage– so yeah! To each their own?
Post # 6
Lauren is completely correct! It depends so much on where you live. I was raised on the East Coast (Boston) and NO ONE I know is married yet. FI and I live in the midwest now, and so many of our friends are married. We are 24. My family thought we were marrying cause I was pregnant or something! Our friends expected us to marry a year or so ago! Region makes a huge difference.
Post # 7
I live in Maine, and I have heard from a lot of my friends and a few family members that Mr. Library and I (both age 24 when the wedding rolls around) are young to get married. One of my friends, who is also getting married, is the same age and her mother almost had a fit to learn she was getting married in her 20s. I guess it depends on where you are, but if you know this person is who you are supposed to marry, then you know.
Post # 8
I think it depends on the person. how much you feel like you shouldve accomplished before getting married.
like… what if you know a 21 year old who has already graduated from college and has a nice stable job and feels like the next step is marriage with her boyfriend? that is how i define a young bride
Post # 9
@ snake that is what i meant. im also 23 and i moved out when i was 18 and i have been a full function responsible adult since that time so even at 21 when i was with my now husband i was ready for marriage
Post # 10
Well, I consider young more of a developmental thing than actual age. For example, someone who hasn’t experienced adult life yet. People still in college, totally naive to how things are going to change once they graduate and enter the real world are too young to me. Or someone college age working full time but still living at home might qualify. I think in order to be ‘old enough’ you’ve got to be a real adult and know yourself. For the most part, that means older than 25 but it’s not always the case.
Post # 11
I have no idea, I’m 26 and I get told I’m too young! lol
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Post # 12
Good point about regional variation. I’m from NYC, and yeah, people i know aren’t really getting married under 27 like that.
Post # 13
Totally agree with the regional thing…I’m 28 (FI is 33) and we’re in NYC. Not one of my friends is married. A few of his are.
Post # 14
I think it really does depend on where you live. We will be 23/25 when we get married, and thats normal. I guess to me, for where i live, anything under 21 is “young”. I don’t think college has anything to do with it. I am still in college, but have lived a “grown up” life. And my cousin was in college until she was in her 30’s! So when you graduate college isn’t really a factor in if you are ready to get married or not (plus, a lot of people don’t go to college!)
Post # 15
I agree with littlemissmoo. Not really many of my friends are getting married, but for people we don’t know, we sometimes get the WOW factor. It depends on the relationship & where you live & your personality. I think we would have been ready for marriage anytime, but because of the fact we were in high school when we started dating, we weren’t really able because our parents would have said we were too young. The only way we aren’t ready is financially, but when I get a job that’ll work out 🙂
Post # 16
In general, I view under age 25 as being young.