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    Br1tSh1n1ngStar    10/17/09   New Jersey

    I may be missing the boat on this one, but why is everyone so nuts about boleros? I mean they are pretty and all but I feel like I am missing something. Just curious. I also think that since the sleeves are so short and tight generally speaking wouldn't that make the tops of your arms look fatter? I have no basis for that since i've never tried one on, but I know some shirts I have tried on with puffy sleeves aren't very complimentary to the width of the top of my arm.

     
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    bvig    September 2009   wedding in NJ

    I think they're really hit or miss.  I saw some photos with people in them that I really liked.  When I saw me in them, not so much.  And my  It's just I donno, for me, no matter how stylish they are they made me look frumpy.  Then if a friend tries one on I'm like wow that looks great.  I'm not sure what's the difference is

     
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    sleepylittlesailor    november 21, 2009  

    It's just a style fad/fashion. Nothing more complicated than that. Fashion right now is directing a lot of attention to the shoulder area: padded shoulders, peaked shoulders, puffed sleeves. And since the bridal market hasn't segued yet out of this sleeveless/strapless phase, it's just kind of an unconscious thing that to lots of womens' eyes, a bolero -- adding what the fashion world calls "volume" at the shoulder -- would look attractive. In another year or two we'll be seeing a LOT more dresses with puffed sleeves, cap sleeves, short sleeves, flutter sleeves, elbow sleeves, portrait collars, etc etc.

    I really really really wanted a 1930s style garden-party dress with little slightly puffed sleeves, myself, but couldn't find the dress of my dreams. So I've got, yup, a sleeveless lace dress .... and a bolero.

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    I think it's great and another alternative to a shawl or a fur wrap for cooler weather brides if there's outdoor activities.

     

     
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    SanDiegoAli    September 18, 2010   San Diego

    I think if they aren't too tight they look really nice!  You're right though, the ones that are "cutting-into-your-arms" tight usually look bad.

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    It totally needs to be flattering, otherwise it gets a really awkward look to it, no doubt.

     
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    Jacqi    February 28, 2009  

    I love boleros! My favorite thing about them is that they can make a strapless dress church-appropriate and more formal. And then you can take the bolero off and add a sash for the reception and totally change your look.

     
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    krissycake    November 21, 2009   orlando,fl

    i bought one just in case (random weather in Nov.) but I agree, people do tend to go pretty bananas over them =)

     
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    Kittyachi    August 2010   New York

    I think you need to have skinny upper arms and a long neck to pull off a bolero. I have neither of those things so I'm not really a fan.

     
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    PeytonL79    12/6/2009   DC Area

    My dress actually came with a matching bolero jacket, which has long sleeves (December wedding) and was one of the big reasons I picked the style of dress. 

    (That's a pic of the dress from the manufacturer's site.  So not me.  ;-)

     

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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    Oooh I like the jacket that came with your dress! It looks like its part of the dress!

     
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    futuremrsreed    June 26, 2010   Davis, CA; wedding in Reno, NV

    I agree with sleepylittlesailor. I wanted a dress with sleeves and you just can't get them anymore. You would not believe the grief I got when I told bridal shop consultants that what I wanted was a dress with long sleeves. I finally just told everyone it was because my church required it, and I STILL got looks about how old-fashioned and ugly (yes, I even had one comment that sleeves were ugly) my dress would be if I didn't go with a strapless dress. If I didn't want to marry my honey so badly, I probably would have put the wedding off for five years until decent dresses came back in style. As it is, I gave up on finding a dream dress and ordered the next best thing. I still feel like I missed out.

    My bridesmaids are all wearing boleros too. Why? Because I like the look of sleeves!

    Boleros are the classiest alternative to the strapless gowns that pervade the market right now, for a bride who prefers the sleeved-look. I really think that is all it is. 

     

     
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    Johnsbride09    7/3/2009   Northern Virginia

    ^ Wow.  That's crazy rude.  Did a bridal consultant say that??  I hope you didn't buy there!

     
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    kjpugs    March 20, 2010   Indianapolis, IN

    I'm waering a strapless dress and I'd like one so I feel a little less naked in church!

     
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    ColoradoBride12    10/17/09   Colorado

    So I didn't want a strapless, but the dress I loved was strapless.  So I decided to go for it. It had a matching bolero, but I tried it on and it was so itchy! (I have sensitive skin)  They are pretty though.  Anyways, my dress comes in and it has spaghetti straps, really pretty spaghetti straps with sparkles that match the empire waist detailing.

     
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    pmerr    August 14, 2010   Rochester, NY

    Some are cute- but really not me. It also depends on the style of dress. I'm not nuts about them though- It really stinks that everything is strapless & you need to add to the dress to make it look how you want.

     

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