Post # 1
I am having a major problem, i cant find away to cut the guest list. We have HUGE family, we will like them all to attend, but we know we cant afford so many people. My husband has 19 siblings, thank god all of then dont live here in USA, but the ones that does have at least 4+ children(teen,adult etc) EACH. I have five siblings too. We have ALOT of auntss, uncles, cousins etc. So far we cut most(all) of the cousins, and friends. If there away to put on the invite such and such plus 1 guest? We dont know what to do!!!
Post # 3
@brokeninnj: As much as it would suck, I’d cut out the cousins, aunts, and uncles and just invite siblings and their children that still live at home. OR if you know you will have the budget, you could extend the invite to siblings and all their children and familes (if they have families of their own).
I’d cut out all aunts and uncles and cousins though to start. It sucks, but maybe later on down the road you could have a backyard reception or something where it would be feasible to invite everyone.
Post # 4
@brokeninnj: We’ve cut down our guest list by having no children (21 or older only). You may want to make your 18 or 16 only? Other ways to cut the list:
- If we’ve never been in or invited to your house.
- If we haven’t spoken in the last year.
Post # 5
Wow! You have your work cut out for you. The only advice I have is cut out by groups. You can’t invite one aunt but not the other, or let one bring all their kids and not the other.
I know family is different but I had a mini version of this issue. I wanted to invite a few coworkers but decided I couldn’t invite some without the others. But with all the coworkers and their spouses it was like 30 extra people so I ended up just not inviting anyone from work. At least no feelings were majorly hurt!
Post # 6
Yeah I agree that cutting by groups is good, but here is what I posted yesterday on another thread on cutting the guest list:
Do I interact regularly/socially with this person?
Would I have them to my home for dinner?
Do I only see this person at family weddings and funerals? If so, why?
Do we at least exchange Christmas cards?
Would this person recognize me if I passed them on the street?
And, my personal fave, do I see my gynocologist more than I see this person?
That last one will really help you red line people from the list. Invite those with whom you have a warm relationship; those who are important to you; those whom you truly care about and love.
DNA is NOT an automatic pass on the guest list.
You are not obligated to give TRULY single guests a +1. If they aren’t married, engaged, living together, or in a serious relationship you can skip the guest if you need to.
Post # 7
@brokeninnj: Maybe invite all the siblings, your friends, and no kids? Who can you not picture the day without?
Post # 8
@brokeninnj: Cutting a guest list can be hard! We have had to do the same thing. These are our rules that we had to help us along.
1. No children under the age of 16.
2. No cousins.
3. Only giving our bridal party plus ones.
4. Trying to only choose our closest friends, and friends that will get along/already know other people attending our wedding.
Our absolute maximum people we are inviting is 77 with a cut off of 80 if we think of people that we desperately do believe we want to invite.
Post # 9
you could maybe just invite parents, siblings, nieces, nephews, children if any and grandparents And godparents if you have any And just make it a intimate immediate family only wedding.