Can the Best Man carry the ring pillow?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It might look odd.  Usually if the best man is carrying the ring, it is in his pocket. 

Post # 4
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@ksus07:  I don’t know that I would have the Best Man hold the ring pillow, it seems like it would be very childish.  Would he even be willing to do it?  I would think of another way to incorporate it in your ceremony.  Maybe ask one of your bridesmaids to do it?  Do you have someone younger you could ask to be an informal part of your ceremony to carry the pillow down the aisle?  A page or jr. bridesmaid rather than flower girl or ring bearer.

Post # 6
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Why don’t you have the photographer take photos of the rings on the pillow?  Then you can at least have them for your album, even if no one carried it out. 

Post # 8
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MrsTVLover:  +1

This is a great idea. It will incorporate the pillow into your memories and album – but you won’t have to deal with the worry.

I’d say the bestman probably wouldn’t be pleased to carry a ring pillow. 🙂

Post # 9
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

Ya, I think it would look a tad out of place / character to have a grown man carry the Ring Pillow.

Are you getting married in a building / Church ?

I suppose you could have the Ring Pillow (with the rings attached / on) placed on the alter before the Ceremony

Do agree tho, using it for Photographs would be nice, and a “pretty” way to Honour your Aunt’s Gift. 

As a Thank You, you might consider giving her a Double-Sided Photo Frame… one side with the Rings on the Pillow, and the other side a Photo of you Both as Man & Wife (maybe clearly showing your Hands / Rings in place)

Sorry about the quality of this particular photo… it was the only one I could find quickly on-line as an example of what I was talking about.

Hope this helps,


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