- 8 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
So I need you guys to tell me if I’m being paranoid ( a possible consequence of my addiction to this site) of if my official waiting can begin.
Flash back to when we first made things official as bf/gf. Though we were lets say “dating” for a while I was hesitant to start anything official cause I knew he was planning to do his Phd in another country (for three years) and I really did not wanted to do the long distance thing. It didnt take long for him to convince me though, especially when he said, “Who knows, something could happen between then and now that we wouldn’t have to split.” I wondered what that something was, but for the moment I just wanted to be with him so I agreed.
Fast forward to last week, we were walking out of school.(We both work full time and doing a master’s degree) I was going off about something (probably an expensive earring) I wanted to buy and he made a comment about how he worries about his finances under my care. Wait his finances under my care. Supicious!
Ok so that same evening, we were discussing a rare topic, what happens when he goes away for his Phd. This is next year, mind you. Then he got real serious, held me and said that he really wanted us to stay together and breaking up wasnt really an option. Then he went on and said his parents were in the same situation when they first got married. When they started his family his dad was in and out of the country while going for his Phd. So it can be done.
I wondered what exactly he meant by that, then I got my 3rd clue. We were in a sports bar, and he kept insisting in showing me this ring in one of the casino machine computer screen. He’s like “you like rings look at that!” (an engagement ring too). And asked me if I thought that type was lame. (Since when he cares about jewelry, is beyond me)
Now my last clue was when on the ride to the mall on Sunday, he commented that wasn’t scared of turning 30,(in the next year and a half) cause he’s looking forward to that next chapter in life, family kids. A while ago I was banned from talking about either. Scary talk he said.
So I told my best guy friend all of this, he thinks I’m being paranoid and reading too much into things. Am I? But I have a feeling he wants us to get married before he leaves to do his Phd. Given that neither of us wants a big wedding I think it will all come together by then.
So I wonder can the official waiting begin, or is it all in my head? Be honest.