Post # 1
FI and I aren’t really having a wedding. It will be very private and intimate. However I wish I could still have a wedding shower. I just really want all the women on both sides to celebrate with me.
Here is what I was thinking….Instead of the traditional shower where you get gifts I was thinking of asking in the invite for their favorite recipe whether it’s a drink recipe, main dish, baked dish, or whatever. Also I would like to ask for their best couples/marriage advice. We would have drinks and a brunch and maybe share the recipes and “wisdom” everyone brings…
What do you think? Can I do this even though no one will be invited to the wedding?
Post # 3
I think it would be fine as long as you call it something other than a wedding shower. I think it’s a nice idea!
Post # 4
@peachacid: Any suggestions on a name? I want it wedding related, but I agree a “Bridal Shower” wouldn’t be right for the name.
Post # 5
I think its a cute idea, but I agree to change the name. Maybe call it get together or something. I have no ideas with what to call it, sorry.
Post # 6
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Post # 7
Sounds like a nice idea! As much as I shied away from showers and parties, etc, I found that many more people than I anticipated (and invited) wanted to celebrate with us, regardless.
Saying that it’s recipie exchange, etc, to celebrate your impending nuptuals will let people know they don’t need to bring a gift, it’s just a party. In fact specifying what to bring makes people even more comfotable.
Post # 8
“FI and I aren’t really having a wedding. It will be very private and intimate. However I wish I could still have a wedding shower. I just really want all the women on both sides to celebrate with me. “
This sounds like an engagement party to me depending on how soon you do it before your wedding. The closer you get to your wedding day, people may be a little bitter that they’re not invited and may be less likely to come (they should not be that way but some are like that, unfortunately). I see you are getting married in May 2013, I think if it’s at least, say 6 months, before the wedding then you can still pull it off as an engagement party.
Post # 9
Thanks for the ideas!! I see the “big talkers” in my family a lot lol. Maybe I will start dropping the idea that there will be some sort of gathering before hand. That way people can still feel they are in the loop and feel a part of it.
Post # 10
Call it a tea or a lunch or something to that effect, and you’re in the clear 🙂
Post # 11
You can’t have a bridal shower without any actual weddng. It’s rude. If you want to do the recipe route, you should find something different to call it.
Post # 12
I really don’t see why it would even be that big of a deal. I wouldn’t be offended at all if I was invited to a wedding shower but the couple wasn’t having a big wedding. It’s all about your family and friends supporting you. I’ve heard of having a “sprinkle” instead of a “shower” if you want to have something smaller 🙂 I think you’d be just fine doing that. As long as you aren’t sending registries with the invites, you’re fine..and you could include somewhere on the invite that you only want recipes. Maybe do something with a play on words and have like..You’re invited to a “Sprinkle”..and then have a cupcake on it or something (the recipe part) 😉
Post # 13
okay- you can totally have a wedding shower even if its not really a wedding. My bestfried is throwing me a wedding shower 2 nights before our ” wedding ” and its really just a nice small intimate gathering with dessert.
I would still call it a shower cuz the way I look at it, they are still ” showering ” you with advice, ideas, and recipes!
Just my opinion of course. 🙂