Weddingbee boards

I am pretty scared about the typical flame war starting topics, such as vaccinating, circumcision, cry-it-out, etc, but I've been really happy to se that they're being handled appropriately.

Not to go overboard patting us all on the back, but I really was SO excited to see a baby board on WB... I don't think about receptions or cakes or dresses anymore, but this is the community where people know me and I know people, and it is SAFE compared to a lot of boards out there. I didn't really want to go create a new identity and break into a new community somewhere else, where the potential for being beat up on for my opinions was so much higher. The baby board really saved WB for me.

I think one thing we should do is try to maintain an attitude of minimal response to people who do get riled up... unfortunately, some are so belligerant or defensive that even obeying the "IRL friend" or "grandma" rule, they would go over-the-top. I think we're all entitled to sharing our opinion here, but anyone who can't do that in a polite, decent fashion doesn't have to be listened to.

I think that there are times when people just need to keep their mouths shut. There are lots of things that people write, say, and do about their weddings that I think are absolutely ridiculous or even stupid. But that's my oppinion and I don't need to comment that those "gorgeous" heels are acutally the most hideous shoes I've ever seen. Or that spending more than x amount on your wedding is wasteful. It's my oppinion and I can respect that others have different oppinions and priorities. And that is NOT A BAD THING! It's what makes wedding bee a great place because there is such a diverse group of women forming a community around a common theme without the negative remarks and snarkiness.

I am not yet a mother, but know that there are topics that are very important to me, mainly natural childbirth, breastfeeding and vaccines. What I'd like when I am a mom-to-be is advice and a sense of welcoming community. Which is what I try to give in return. There are a million different ways to throw a wedding, but there are also different ways to raise a child. Each of our parents raised us a little differently from the next person, and it seems like we all turned out relatively okay. Our kids will do the same, and we don't need to tear each other apart for doing things differently than we are.

I hope that the hive's "nesting" boards continue to be welcoming, understanding, and considerate just as the wedding boards are.

I have *never* seen the vax, circumcision, breastfeeding, etc., etc. discussions go so well as I've seen them go here. I nearly choked when I saw all those polls the other day. But, honestly, those were some of THE biggest hot-button issues, and they seemed to go pretty well. Usually, those things crash and burn like nobody's business.

I came on here as a vendor because a friend recommended this site; but I've stayed around because it's the nicest online community I've ever seen. I *love* the Babies section--I feel like I can sort of be a part of it without, hopefully, it being too weird.

I think we're doing fine.

I think overall everyone I have conversed with on WB has been very nice. (and I've been on boards where these issues have really gotten mean)

I enjoy discussing different views, and one of the wonderful things about WB is there is such a diverse crowd on here from all walks of humanity.

Have I gotten briefly annoyed when someone knowing or unknowingly insults my choices?? Yeah.  And few times I've rolled my eyes at things I've read on here (and most of you know you have too) But I dont take it personally.

I genuinely believe that most of us realize that being a Mother isnt a competition.

The reality for me is, whether or not I agree with your choices. I support your right to make those choices, and willingly offer any support, advice or assistance I can provide.

I am not going to have to live with your choices. You are. And I'm sure you're child will be loved and nutured and in the a lovely human being.

However,  I can understand how someone, ESPECIALLY someone at the beginning of this journey can get upset. Being a mother is HUGE event in your life. And you never stop being a Mother. You are a mother from the moment you realize/accept it (be it when you find out, when you give birth..whatever your "A HA" moment is) until well after you pass from this world.

And it is scary as hell, you dont need someone telling you that because "you picked yes while I picked no" that makes you a bad mother.

It doesnt. It just doesnt make you me.

Which is cool ;-)

I think ya'll are a wonderful group of women :-)

I agree with you NorthernAZ about wanting to hide the boards, but as expected, Mr Bee came up with a perfect solution for everyone.  I also agree that as long as we don't take it personally we will do ok.  I see some things that I may find a little strong or contradictory to what I believe but everyone is entitled to their own opinion and does what works best in their situation. 

These boards are most definitely less catty and more supportive than others, which I find so welcoming.

I was really excited about the Baby Board bc when I was planning my wedding, and then cancelled it, I still came and looked around to see how other people I felt kinship with were doing. And now, that my husband are trying to get pregnant, I thought "HOORAY!!" A nice place!! Because, really, most of the other boards I have visited get brutal!!!! I think that I do have a really different perspective on a lot of things that have been discussed here (different than the majority of posters), but I also think that, for the most part, people have been pretty respectful of that. In my opinion, we're doing pretty great, considering that people do get very passionate and defensive about some topics! I hope we keep this board up, bc the thought of the crazy ladies on other boards just makes me want to hide in a corner, behind my own Mommy!