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My mom is keeping all of our gifts until after the wedding so it will feel a little bit like "setting up house" after the honeymoon even though we already live together. I didn't like the idea at first, but now I do. I think it will be special. So my vote is to wait. :)
Hmmm I haven't thought that far in advance about it. I'll probably wait, even though we live together. It'll something fun to do after the wedding, especially since we will probably not go on a honemoon right away.
If it were me, I'd wait and do it afterward. Like August15bride said, it'd be something special to do when you get back from the honeymoon!
It's kinda fun to come back from the honeymoon and have a bunch of new presents to put away/start using. Except for our new coffe pot which I couldn't wait to use! Anyway, after the honeymoon, organizing and putting things away has been a big help for the "post-wedding blues." Not that I've been depressed, but it's something else to concentrate on besides having babies. :)
we used the things that came to the house before the wedding. i mean, what the gift givers don't know won't hurt em, right?
and we still got tons of stuff after the wedding to set up house with :)
We aren't using anything before the wedding, and the boxes and items are starting to get difficult to handle... and it's only shower gifts from people who can't come so far. My mom told me today to just put the stuff away and use it. However, my fiance insists we shouldn't. So, we're going to ATTEMPT to keep everything in it's box etc and not use until after the wedding. I just don't know where we're going to put everything. Honestly if you are moving into a new house right before the wedding, I really don't think it makes sense to bring your old sets of dishes, etc, just to use for however many months, when you've been gifted dishes, glasses- what have you- that will just be sitting there. I know they always say not to use anything in the event anything happens and you have to return stuff.. which is valid.. but.. I don't know. In your case, I think I'm too lazy to essentially move twice.. so I'd just use it!
Um, I used mine if I wanted to. I'm not sure if the reason you're not "supposed" to is etquitte, superstition, or the idea that you should return gifts if you don't go through with the wedding. None of that mattered to me.
I only got a few things, like some plates and glasses, before the wedding. Maybe if I got a lot of new pots and pans it would have been different. My favorite post-wedding gift has been a knife set. I'm not sure if I would have used those before the wedding, but probably yes.
I also bought stuff I'd put on my registry for myself, like a blender, if I wanted it. (I wanted to make margaritas!)
I'm not sure why you aren't supposed to either, but I think it is a combination of all of the above.
Here are my discussion points:
etiquette: no one will know
superstition: don't believe in it
not going to get married: hmm, well, one can only hope that after 8 years of being together and purchasing a home we are pretty much going through with it.
i do get the part about having something to look forward to after the wedding, though.
see, i can justify anything. tee hee
I haven't really thought about it, but I think we'll have to at least unwrap and put the gifts away as we get them, or else they will take up too much room in our apartment. And if they're unwrapped and put away...I think we'll probably use them. I've gotten thank you notes before a wedding that said, "thank you so much for the waffle maker, we enjoyed waffles last Sunday" or whatever and I didn't think anything of it. (Maybe because that was before I was immersed in all of this wedding etiquette!) I say use them if you want to!
I dont see why you have to wait till after the wedding esp if your moving into the new house and will need certain items. And plus I agree with Sara ....do we all really have enough room in our homes to have a bunch of boxes sitting around? I dont! I say OPEN THEM!
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Not waiting!!! We've received so many beautiful gifts and we cannot wait to use them in our beautiful new home. That being said, we ARE waiting until we move into our new home (only a week away now!) even though we live together now!
I vote for not waiting. The whole point of the gifts is to embark on your new life together and make your new home happier and cozier, right? It just happens that you're moving into your new home before your wedding.
We use ours 
Maybe we're not supposed to but honestly I needed to get those boxes out of the way! And I can't wait for things like that! Absolutely zero patience!! I really don't think any of the gift givers would mind if I used them prior to the wedding anyway!
If this helps - we live together now and are basically upgrading most of our stuff. In my head, I'm thinking - we move a week after my shower. Why pack up all the old crap and bring it with us? Instead, lets make a trip to good will and start anew. Again, my mom will be very disappointed in me 
Well....I have no patience, so I would vote to use them right away! (That's the answer you're looking for, right? lol). But, I could see how it would be nice to wait, if one had the self-control.
Of which I apparently have none : )
All comments are very helpful...I like to see what everyone is doing (though, ehem, you can all tell which way I am leaning...)
Oh, I'd totally open those up and use them right away, with the new house! Box up all your old (cleaned, working) stuff on moving day and drop it by the charity shop on the way to your new place-- give someone else the chance to enjoy your old toaster and blender!
I say do it. I'm very practical and not superstitious. The only reason I haven't used any of my wedding gifts is because I've only received 3 in the mail. My mom actually used a pan set for my shower, lol. It's not like you aren't going to get married. I say use them. It's not going to cause bad luck, and you'll have ENOUGH to do when you get back! All my shower gifts are piling up in a room in my entryway....and I'm actually NOT looking forward to unpacking ALL THOSE GIFTS. omg. it's so overwhelming. Save yourself the sanity/time/hassle of moving everything twice. Moving's a BIA!
I'm on your side
I suggest using the "waste of time" excuse. But mom, it would be such a waste of everyone's time and energy to pack up all of our old things just to move them to the new house for a few months. Wouldn't it be much more sane to set-up our new house with all of our new gifts and take the old things to goodwill and help out someone else?
I haven't gotten there yet - but I have a feeling it will be hard to wait!
I say go for it! Moving is a pain and it's crazy to move all your old stuff only to replace it in a few months!
We already live together so we're trying to wait til after the wedding to use the new stuff. We are also waiting for our roommate to move out. Is it bad that I don't want her using all our new stuff?? She has actually made comments about how excited she is for all the new kitchen stuff we are getting! We just had the "it's time for you to move out talk".
That being said, our iron broke last week so I'm opening the new one 
I have two perspectives.
1. I thought you weren't supposed to open them before the wedding, so they could be returned if the wedding fell through. If you're confident that it won't, go ahead. You're right. Who will know?
2. On the other hand, waiting to use the stuff, after the wedding, can help with those post wedding blues. You can throw some of that wedding energy into setting up your new place. Are you moving far? I'm not sure all the stuff you have, but you could probably move both coffee pots, without too much trouble.
I think it's a matter of how blue you'll feel after the wedding. Unfortunately, you might not be able to estimate that right now.
Tanya123, that's a really good point! Opening all the wedding presents really would help with post-wedding blues! I wasn't planning on using the presents beforehand (opening, yes, because of rampant curiosity and the need to send thank you notes) because I'm terribly afraid of jinxing the wedding. I mean, really, what if it didn't work out? 
We opened them right away because I wanted to make sure nothing was damaged too. You don't want to wait too long in case they are. We had a few broken things that had to be replaced.
I'm not living with FI til we're officially married, but he's moved into our new place. We've started using shower gifts as necessary (I have been waiting patiently for a wok set, I got one, now we stir fry multiple times per week, would have been idiotic to wait) but also not using them just to use them. Once we're done with wedding details, then we'll focus on setting up our home the way we want it, installing track lighting, shelving, etc etc. But we figure until we have ALL our gifts, how can we figure out our storage/display strategy? So as much as we can we are just stacking everything in the second bedroom and it will be tons of fun to start our new life together with all of our crappy mismatched stuff magically swapped with shiny new sets. As for not moving twice, depending on how long til the wedding, just move enough of your old stuff to tide you over til then!
I vote for using them (or at least some of them). My fiance and I just moved from an apartment to a house with all our old stuff and our shower presents still in boxes. It's a big pain because we've just got junk EVERYWHERE. We were going to wait and open everything after the wedding, but we decided that having piles and piles of boxes (I'm exaggerating, but it feels like it) everywhere is going to drive us crazy. We're keeping some stuff until after the wedding (china, new plates) to open and use but opening the coffee pot, magic bullet and some of the other things so we can get rid of the old stuff and the boxes.
We were at the same intersection - we came up with the comprimise that if we sent the thank you then we could use it!! That kept us on top of our thank yous AND we got to use the gifts! :)
hehe looks like you have your mind made up! I like the thought mdarrah offered... if you write a thank you , use the gift. One other argument could be "they were shower presents" but I won't use obvious "wedding presents" until after the big day.
I will say that we got a few engagement presents and we used the wine glasses. One broke as I was washing it and I was SO upset. I was like freaking out that it was a bad omen. My FI thought I was NUTS! But that was just an "engagement present" so I didn't fret TOO long about it.
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I hate to move, so my vote is to make moving as easy as possible and go to Goodwill with the old stuff and use the new. Just think of all the people you'll be making happy at Goodwill with your stuff.
That should make you feel better about having no self-control. LOL You're doing a good selfless act by donating things to the less fortunate. :)
We're using our stuff :)
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I say use them right away too. When I give a couple a wedding gift, I hope that they use it as soon as they can instead of putting it in a closet until after the wedding...lol.
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If we are moving into a new house in the months before our wedding can I move in and USE my wedding gifts? I mean, it only makes sense to have to move once...right? Just sayin!
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