(Closed) Can we break the rule?

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

My mom is keeping all of our gifts until after the wedding so it will feel a little bit like "setting up house" after the honeymoon even though we already live together. I didn’t like the idea at first, but now I do. I think it will be special. So my vote is to wait. 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Hmmm I haven’t thought that far in advance about it. I’ll probably wait, even though we live together. It’ll something fun to do after the wedding, especially since we will probably not go on a honemoon right away.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

If it were me, I’d wait and do it afterward. Like August15bride said, it’d be something special to do when you get back from the honeymoon!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

It’s kinda fun to come back from the honeymoon and have a bunch of new presents to put away/start using.  Except for our new coffe pot which I couldn’t wait to use!  Anyway, after the honeymoon, organizing and putting things away has been a big help for the "post-wedding blues."  Not that I’ve been depressed, but it’s something else to concentrate on besides having babies.  🙂

Post # 8
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Busy bee

we used the things that came to the house before the wedding.  i mean, what the gift givers don’t know won’t hurt em, right?

and we still got tons of stuff after the wedding to set up house with 🙂 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We aren’t using anything before the wedding, and the boxes and items are starting to get difficult to handle… and it’s only shower gifts from people who can’t come so far. My mom told me today to just put the stuff away and use it. However, my fiance insists we shouldn’t. So, we’re going to ATTEMPT to keep everything in it’s box etc and not use until after the wedding. I just don’t know where we’re going to put everything. Honestly if you are moving into a new house right before the wedding, I really don’t think it makes sense to bring your old sets of dishes, etc, just to use for however many months, when you’ve been gifted dishes, glasses- what have you- that will just be sitting there. I know they always say not to use anything in the event anything happens and you have to return stuff.. which is valid.. but.. I don’t know. In your case, I think I’m too lazy to essentially move twice.. so I’d just use it! 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Um, I used mine if I wanted to. I’m not sure if the reason you’re not "supposed" to is etquitte, superstition, or the idea that you should return gifts if you don’t go through with the wedding. None of that mattered to me.

I only got a few things, like some plates and glasses, before the wedding. Maybe if I got a lot of new pots and pans it would have been different. My favorite post-wedding gift has been a knife set. I’m not sure if I would have used those before the wedding, but probably yes.

I also bought stuff I’d put on my registry for myself, like a blender, if I wanted it. (I wanted to make margaritas!)

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I haven’t really thought about it, but I think we’ll have to at least unwrap and put the gifts away as we get them, or else they will take up too much room in our apartment.  And if they’re unwrapped and put away…I think we’ll probably use them.  I’ve gotten thank you notes before a wedding that said, "thank you so much for the waffle maker, we enjoyed waffles last Sunday" or whatever and I didn’t think anything of it.  (Maybe because that was before I was immersed in all of this wedding etiquette!)  I say use them if you want to!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Erindesmar, I completely agree with you.
 
If we were moving, I would start new too. Since we’re not, and a lot of the stuff we are receiving are better versions of things we have now (cooking utensils, pots & pans, etc.) we’re waiting til after the wedding so we can host a garage sale….
 
I have, however, opened and begun using towels received at the shower. I figure since they were shower gifts, and it’s now after the shower, it’s fair game! 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I dont see why you have to wait till after the wedding esp if your moving into the new house and will need certain items. And plus I agree with Sara ….do we all really have enough room in our homes to have a bunch of boxes sitting around? I dont! I say OPEN THEM!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Not waiting!!! We’ve received so many beautiful gifts and we cannot wait to use them in our beautiful new home.  That being said, we ARE waiting until we move into our new home (only a week away now!) even though we live together now!

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