(Closed) can we kick out a groomsman with only 16 days to go til the wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would say that if he doesn’t get his tux fitted by Monday (as he has stated he will), then that is cutting it too close and you definitely have grounds to “fire” him as a groomsman – hence promoting your usher.  At the end of the day, it should be the people YOU want up there beside you and if a person is not giving you support, then you shouldn’t feel obligated to have them in your bridal party.  It really is up to you, but the tux thing would really be stressing me out and if he doesn’t get it done, well…what else can you do?!

Post # 4
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493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

No, you can’t fire him because someone else would have done a better job.  But that sucks for your FI that they’ve grown apart.  Not even an invite to his 30th birthday??  That’s a huge burn.  

I’m having some bridal party regrets myself, but its too late to do anything about it.  I chose my gay ‘boyfriend’ even though we’ve grown apart over the years.  We used to be BFFs, roommates, coworkers, spent all our time together, and I knew he’d be devestated if I didn’t ask him.  Well, he’s literally done nothing bridesmanish.  Nothing.  At all.  Meanwhile another longtime friend has been a blessing, designed my invitations, come to both of my bridal showers, and overall very involved and supportive.  I very much wish I would have asked her instead 🙁  But what can you do?  Live and learn. 

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