Tux and backyard wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
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Blushing bee

Oh I love the idea of a formal event at a backyard wedding, like Joe Black but a little less formal.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@waitingforthering2:  Your date says over a year to go, so what’s your actual date?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sorry you did put the date in your original post.  Ok so June.  Do you have pictures of the house, and the yard?

I think this can totally be done.  What expenses are sunk in already – e.g. photographer, caterer?

Post # 7
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Helper bee

We’re doing a semi-formal event under a tent on the yard of my dad’s hotel and I think it will work fine. 

In my opinion, you guys are the stars of the show so you can wear whatever you want. I think the tone of your invites will clue your guests in onto what they should wear. Choose a a semi-formal but fun invitation. 

I’ve tried to come up with some somewhat fancy appetizers that we can do on our own (which our dinner caterer is fine with). We’re going to do squash crostini, cranberry brie cups, caprese skewers, a cheese and fruit board, and an ‘olive oil tasting bar’ with a couple flavors of olive oil and vinegar with crackers, bread, olives and mozzarella cheese.   For dinner, our caterer is doing a grill menu with grilled chicken or steak, garden salad, mashed potatos and vegetable skewers (for 150 people it’ll be $4000). 

We’re also going to be putting christmas lights all over. A friend used them for her wedding so we’re just borrowing them, but I like how they change the yard to looking like something a little more special. 

 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@waitingforthering2:  Can you use the interior of the house, or just the yard?  What’s the approximate size of the decks, and how many are there?  Are you planning to serve dinner, or just nibbles?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@waitingforthering2:  I think it’s entirely do-able.  You should see if there’s someone in the area that does a Christmas lights service, and you could get everything in the yard lit up.  It sounds like there is lots of space for a bar – or two bars.  I might look into an hors d’oeuvres type menu, so that you don’t need to rent as many tables and chairs, etc.  

To save money, I would just hire a bartender for the night, and buy the liquor yourselves.  Pick two or three cocktails to offer, a keg of beer, and a red and a white wine.  The benefits are that the liquor itself is cheaper, so you spend less on each drink, and you can return what doesn’t get used, so you aren’t committed to a minimum.  You shuld pay the bartender pretty well, since he/she won’t get many tips if people aren’t paying for their drinks.

For caterers, look around to local restaurants there, and pick ones that have food you’d like, and ask them if they will provide the food – either providing service on-site, or just making the food, and allowing it to be picked up that day.  That is sometimes cheaper than actual catering companies, and there’s no real disadvantage to the restaurant, because they would be making your food in the morning, so not during their service hours, and they don’t have to open their dining room.  You can probably negotiate a very reasonable price.

Black Tie (Tuxedos) evolved as a casual alternative to White Tie, so this type of party is completely in line with wearing Black Tie.  Has your FI picked his out yet?

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What kind of music do you want?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@waitingforthering2:  I think our receptin was a lot like what you’re thinking of:

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s definitely possible. The house/yard will, of course, have to be very well manicured, but more will depend on all the other stuff: nice hors d’ouevres passed by waitors, champagne and cocktails, tall and short tables, a band, formal decor, etc.

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