Post # 1
We’re having a very small wedding of about 35-40 people. As of yet we have not registered anywhere. After we marry we do plan on sending out announcement cards. Can we register after the wedding and add the registry to the announcements?
Post # 3
I’ve never heard of this but I think it would rub me the wrong way. You normally register for gifts that people can buy who actually attend a shower or wedding (or were atleast invited to them). Registering after these events are already over seems pretty gift grabby to me.
Post # 4
Thanks for your comment. It didn’t sound right to me either but my FMIL suggested this. We don’t want to register at all because we’ve lived together for years and really don’t need anything.
Post # 5
If it’s about not needing things, maybe you can suggest a donation to a charity that’s important to the two of you instead? It’s a great alternative and guests won’t be confused searching high and low for where you’ve registered and you’ll avoid receiving awkward gifts from people guessing what it is they think you might want.
Post # 6
You can register any time, if you think it will help with your household planning and you trust the department store not to be just using you as a marketing ploy.
You should definately send out announcements. How else are the people who don’t get wedding invitations to know that for their future formal events they have to invite your husband as well as you, and what his name is; or know whether your name has changed and to what and to invite you as well as him.
But an announcement instead of an invitation is an indication to the recipient, that you are NOT intimate enough with them to have them at their wedding, and that they are therefore NOT intimate enough with you to be sending you a gift. So it would be improper — and send an unpleasantly materialistic meta-message — to put your registry details on an announcement.
Use your registry for your own records, to get the extra ten percent off if applicable, and to keep track of that soup tureen you are saving up for.
Post # 7
@aspasia475: dude I wish you could “like” comments. You said it perfectly 🙂
Post # 8
We also had a very small wedding. I have a huge family, and my mom wanted to invite everybody but couldn’t. So we sent them announcements. Some sent gifts, others didn’t. It really didn’t matter to me either way.
However, I don’t think it’s appropriate to put the registry info on the announcement, just like you shouldn’t be putting it on the invite. I think it’s ok to register, and if they want to send a gift they’ll ask for the info.
Post # 9
I think putting the registry information with the announcement is worse than putting it with a wedding invitation.
Register if you want, but I’m not sure if stores will let you after the date. You could always use a different date (say it’s a year later) for registering.
Post # 10
I dont think its a good idea. If you want to register, do it before the wedding and share the registry info with those who are actually invited