Can we talk about Blurred Lines?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

All I know is that song is going straight to the “do not play” list!!!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

After seeing the unrated video…..I was seriously disgusted. Who needs topless women in a music video??? SERIOUSLY??

Also, after watching clips of the VMAs on YouTube this morning, I’m scared for the next generation. They have to know this is not music lol although, Justin Timberlake ROCKED it. Can we have a real Nsync reunion please????????

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

The video is pretty weird, but I don’t really listen to the lyrics of a song and then interpret them in a bad way. If the song is catchy, I like it. If not, I don’t. 

I honestly have never noticed anything rapey about this song. Maybe I’m not listening carefully enough but I also don’t care to listen carefully to every song. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yeah, I’m with you. I thought it sounded catchy when it first came on, and after listening to the lyrics….it’s just trash. Is there really nothing else they can make songs about these days?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

He explains his meaning behind “blurred lines” and the reason for the video…

Yet Thicke tells the BBC that he was going for female empowerment rather than sleaze.

“I can’t dignify that with a response,” Thicke said of his critics. “That’s ridiculous … For me, it was about blurring the lines between men and women, and how much we’re the same. My wife is as strong as I am, if not smarter and stronger. And she’s an animal too, and she doesn’t need a man to define her. The song is really about women are everything that a man is, and can do anything a man can do.”

His wife, actress Paula Patton, was also an inspiration behind the racy music video for “Blurred Lines,” which was pulled from YouTube for featuring a bevy of models wearing nothing but flesh-colored thongs.

“It was actually the director’s idea, Diane Martel,” Thicke said. “I had mentioned to her that I wanted to do a very funny and silly video. … And she said, ‘well, what if we have the girls take their clothes off?’ And I said, ‘let’s make sure we shoot two versions, because I don’t want it to be sleazy.’ I’ve always been a gentleman, I’ve been in love with the same woman since I was a teenager. I don’t want to do anything that’s inappropriate.”

While Thicke said that he was more partial to the clothed version, his spouse encouraged him to go with something more risque. “I showed [the naked version] to my wife and all my girlfriends, and they said, ‘You have to put this out, this is so sexy and so cool.'”

Of course, there is another side to the “Blurred Lines” coin, “which is, the blurred lines between a good girl and a bad girl,” he said. “Even very good girls have a little bad side to them, you just have to know how to pull it out of them.”

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m a pretty big lyric-listener and I never thought of it as “rapey.”  I think it’s catchy as hell.  And who watches music videos? 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Carlasgettingmarried:  Not going to lie, my mouth dropped when you said BSB and Nysnc were crappy music lol it was at least something you could sing along to, dance to, and have respect for. 

The whole music video is just degrading along with the lyrics, I hear it and just shake my head when it comes on

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@almostmrsj:  Normally I don’t, but FI told me about it from things he heard and I was like it cant be that bad…and then I watched..yup, that bad

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It doesn’t really bother me.  If men want to be pigs then they’re going to be pigs regardless of what Robin Thicke says in a song.

It is pretty catchy, though.  But it has to be incredibly explicit…like he actually has to say “let’s rape women” in order for me to get bothered. 

To me, “I know you want it” seemed more like that first time when you really want to sleep with a guy, but you can’t say it outright and you have to play hard to get…rape never really crossed my mind when I heard it.

Plus all three of the people in the song are happily married with children…I have trouble believing they’re all singing about rape.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Pinkmoon:  +1 although I haven’t seen the video.

I think the song is catchy so I like it, but I don’t listen to lyrics until well after I’ve decided I like the song.  And even then, the lyrics would have to be total crap and outweight the catchiness of the song for me not to like it.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Carlasgettingmarried:  to me, the blurred lines are the lines between being a good girl and a naughty girl.

i think the song is catchy as fuck, i’m kind of obsessed with it.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

So rapey. Ugh. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

I think it’s equal parts horrifying and terrifying that this song is so popular.  I disagree with the idea of just listening to music and liking it if it’s catchy, without noting the message behind it – I think it’s very important to think critically.  This song is very misogynistic and it sends a terrible message.

There was another thread where a Bee asked for people’s opinions on whether she should play this song (or another one with swearing in it) for her recessional, and a few people pointed out that this song is about rape.  She’s closed the thread since because people were being “sensitive”.

As I said in that thread, this song trivializes sexual consent, promotes rape culture, and perpetuates the very damaging idea that women who get raped “ask for it”, that no doesn’t really mean no.  The very title of this song refers to consent.  There’s NO SUCH THING as blurred lines when it comes to consent.  It should never, ever be assumed.  “The way you grab me / Must wanna get nasty” and “I know you want it” are lines that are sung over and over again – how scary is that?!  If I dance with a man at a party and hold him, it doesn’t automatically mean I want to have sex with him and I am most definitely NOT asking to get raped.

This song is complete garbage.

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