Post # 1
My FI was in a wedding recently, and we just LOVED the couple’s first dance song. We’ve been trying for months now to find one that’s even more perfect for us, but I just really really love that one. We both do. The lyrics are perfect, the song gives us exactly the feel we were looking for. It’s not too slow and not too fast, and it leaves you with a warm and romantic feeling, but it’s not too gushy or cheesy.
Can we use their same song? Should we “ask” their permission? My FI’s friend will be a GM in our wedding, so they’re pretty tight. I just don’t want to infringe whatever right they have to that particular song, you know what I mean? Or offend them, or make it any less special to them.
BTW, if it makes a difference, our weddings are about 1 year apart.
Post # 3
I made sure to tell my friend who got married before me our wedding song so that she didn’t use ours…and then she said that when she found out what her wedding song was it was a “suprise”, so I finally had to ask her if she was using mine. I would’ve been a little upset if she would’ve used the same one..especially if she didn’t ask if it was okay.
I’m sure you’re not the first person to use their first dance song. I would ask how they feel about it, and let them know that you think it’s a great song for that purpose. & that you’re not trying to copy them in any way but you wanted to talk to her about it before you decided anything.
It’s your wedding, you don’t have to ask permission, but I’m sure she’d feel a lot better if you did.
Post # 4
BUT even though I told my friend what our wedding song was, I wouldn’t have been terribly upset about it if she wanted to use it…because she did tell me it was on their list but she decided not to use it.
If your friend is a TRUE friend, she’ll be honored that you’ll want to use it and that she gave you such a great idea for your wedding!
Post # 5
If the song has meaning to you then use it. Look at all the countless songs that are used by everyone for a first dance. You don’t have to ask permission from anyone to use it since neither you nor they own the rights to the song.
Post # 6
I think you can use it without asking.
I also think asking would be a nice gesture IF you are willing to accept a “no” answer. If you would use it despite your friends saying no, don’t ask!
Post # 7
Kara, YES. Your friends do not own the rights to the song. You do not have to ask permission to use ANYTHING for your wedding, it is your day.
I have wanted “Can’t Help Falling in Love” for as long as I can remember for my wedding song, and this past May, the boyfriend and I were at his friends wedding and when that song came on for their first dance, I won’t lie, my heart melted alittle, but then I got over it. I can have whatever song I want….and so can you.